I am so sick of filling out adoption paperwork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really am.

My brain is just fried.

I thought this would be easier the 2nd time around because, you know, I've already done it. But no, it is still the same big huge pain in the neck.

I hate paperwork, financial crap, and details.

CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If this will be your first child, then get over it and just do what is required. Parenting is a both a joy and a hell of a lot of work and sacrifice. But, this paperwork stuff is a minor detail along the way. Parenting is much more challenging than this minor inconvenience. Stop whining. Adoptive mother.

Dude, did you read my post? I said this is the 2nd time that I am doing this, as we have already adopted once. BTDT. It was just a temporary vent. Signed, adoptive mother/OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There should be an alternative process that does not require paperwork. It could be like Survivor or something: They find you when you have a cold and sore throat and they hand you a crying baby who wants to be walked and sung to. Can you power through? Win!
It's 11:45 on a Saturday. You have nothing for lunch in your house. Here's a cart with a hungry two-year-old in it. Can you buy enough food to get you through the next three meals without going slap out of your mind? Win!
Road trip! It would take six hours without kids. How long with one? Win!

Or, your child develops a chronic medical condition, which requires your constant attention, or he or she has ADHD and is always a challenge. Or both! Compared to paperwork, what is the problem you are having?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There should be an alternative process that does not require paperwork. It could be like Survivor or something: They find you when you have a cold and sore throat and they hand you a crying baby who wants to be walked and sung to. Can you power through? Win!
It's 11:45 on a Saturday. You have nothing for lunch in your house. Here's a cart with a hungry two-year-old in it. Can you buy enough food to get you through the next three meals without going slap out of your mind? Win!
Road trip! It would take six hours without kids. How long with one? Win!

Or, your child develops a chronic medical condition, which requires your constant attention, or he or she has ADHD and is always a challenge. Or both! Compared to paperwork, what is the problem you are having?

OP back. Sigh. My 1st child does have a chronic medical condition which requires my medical attn, so I am no stranger to this issue. As I mentioned above, my first post was just a temporary vent about the paperwork (which yes, I am trying to squeeze in in between caring for my first child and working as well). Sigh. Back to the trenches, OPADoptiveMom

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it -- you were just looking for a little sympathy and venting in a light-hearted way (BTW, thanks for the Calgon reference -- makes me feel less dated). My compliments on your coping skills -- which are, needless to say, invaluable in parenting. Signed -- mom of 4 -- 3 by birth and one by adoption, so, yeah, I've been there and done that, and, of course, it's worth it. We feel like we won the lottery with all our kids! Best of luck to you, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it -- you were just looking for a little sympathy and venting in a light-hearted way (BTW, thanks for the Calgon reference -- makes me feel less dated). My compliments on your coping skills -- which are, needless to say, invaluable in parenting. Signed -- mom of 4 -- 3 by birth and one by adoption, so, yeah, I've been there and done that, and, of course, it's worth it. We feel like we won the lottery with all our kids! Best of luck to you, OP!

LOL! Yeah, I am old, for sure! Definitely remember the old Calgon ads!

Thanks for the empathy and have fun with your four!!!

[Anonymous]

And I do wonder whether you would have gotten the same scolding responses if you had posted "I'm 6 months pregnant and tired of feeling fat." Anyway, hang in there and remember that good things do come to those who wait!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I do wonder whether you would have gotten the same scolding responses if you had posted "I'm 6 months pregnant and tired of feeling fat." Anyway, hang in there and remember that good things do come to those who wait!

I agree. There's a definite bias against adoption and at the very least, most of the population can't understand what adoptive parents go through so they are just less knowledgeable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I do wonder whether you would have gotten the same scolding responses if you had posted "I'm 6 months pregnant and tired of feeling fat." Anyway, hang in there and remember that good things do come to those who wait!

Thank you so much!! You are right about that!

[Anonymous]

I'm the Survivor poster and I got the Calgon reference.

And I hope the process gets more bearable soon!

[Anonymous]

Been through it myself - hang in there - it is worth it!!