If your children are the bullies

[Anonymous]

If your children are the bullies, did they go to Landon or STA or Sidwell? Just wondering.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the future of America. Cruel. Disrespectful. Obnoxious. There is no way these children had been taught kindness or respect at home.

These are the same type of kids whose parents pull them out of school for a week to go to Disney. The rules don't apply to them.

Rule follower.

yes, I guess so. Is that a bad thing

Yes. If the rule is to sit on the bus quietly and not to stand up and you sit quietly while somebody tortures somebody else.
It is if the rule is to go to school every day and you miss a family reunion. I think family is more important than school but that is just me. My rules may be different than your rules. I don't follow other peoples rules.[/quote]

Just the ones you choose to then?
Stop signs, speed limits - how about those?
reporting all income on your taxes?
you're quite mavricky
p.s: I'm pretty sure there is no rule somebody has to siit on the bus quietly while somebody tortures somebody else.

[Anonymous]

What those kids did was unconscionable, but was that woman not PAID to be the bus monitor and enforce the rules of behavior? She just sat there. She was in over her head and should never have taken that job. But the blame is squarely on the horrid brats.

[Anonymous]

It was a public school that bullied the woman...no need to bring in the private school kids.

Anonymous wrote:If your children are the bullies, did they go to Landon or STA or Sidwell? Just wondering.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the future of America. Cruel. Disrespectful. Obnoxious. There is no way these children had been taught kindness or respect at home.

These are the same type of kids whose parents pull them out of school for a week to go to Disney. The rules don't apply to them.

Rule follower.

yes, I guess so. Is that a bad thing

Yes. If the rule is to sit on the bus quietly and not to stand up and you sit quietly while somebody tortures somebody else.
It is if the rule is to go to school every day and you miss a family reunion. I think family is more important than school but that is just me. My rules may be different than your rules. I don't follow other peoples rules.[/quote]

Just the ones you choose to then?
Stop signs, speed limits - how about those?
reporting all income on your taxes?
you're quite mavricky
p.s: I'm pretty sure there is no rule somebody has to siit on the bus quietly while somebody tortures somebody else.

I did not adhear when I was rushing somebody to the hospital.

I pay my taxes because not paying them does not help anybody else.

I am a maverick and my son has stood up to 3 bullies for other kids in his his 7 years at school. Care to share your experiences with stopping bullies?

[Anonymous]

Care to share your experiences with stopping bullies?

The secret is to avoid being targeted. Bullies sniff out weakness and vulnerability and exploit it. Give your kid a way to exude physical confidence -- get them proficient in martial arts, gymnastics, sports, whatever.

Also, if your kid ever gets physically targeted, always file a police report and let the kid and the parents know. If you were walking down the street and another adult punched you in the face, that would be assault and you could prosecute for it. Don't trivialize the same behavior in kids because they're "just kids".

[Anonymous]

We had awful kids like this when I was little too. It's not the end of the world as if it's something new. Kids have always been capable of being monstrous.

I picked up my dad's copy of the memoirs of Field Marshall Montgomery this weekend. He was a Brit who helped win WWII. He recounts a story about how he SET ANOTHER CHILD ON FIRE at military school. He was disciplined but nothing too major. Now his life would be OVER. He'd be tried as an adult and locked away as a sociopath.

I think we'd do well to remember that a person's conscience doesn't truly develop until later teen years: http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=19941025&slug=1937798

[Anonymous]

It is a complete lack of parenting. All of these kids should have to walk to school and walk home every Fay for a heat and one of their parents should have to walk with their brats. Parents should also be fined for their childre's inexcusable behavior and any infraction of rules and kid is expelled from school and double for year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the future of America. Cruel. Disrespectful. Obnoxious. There is no way these children had been taught kindness or respect at home.

These are the same type of kids whose parents pull them out of school for a week to go to Disney. The rules don't apply to them.

Our school doesn't have a rule stating you can not take vacations during the school year. Does your school have that rule?

Yes. Ours does and principal tracks absences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Care to share your experiences with stopping bullies?

The secret is to avoid being targeted. Bullies sniff out weakness and vulnerability and exploit it. Give your kid a way to exude physical confidence -- get them proficient in martial arts, gymnastics, sports, whatever.

Also, if your kid ever gets physically targeted, always file a police report and let the kid and the parents know. If you were walking down the street and another adult punched you in the face, that would be assault and you could prosecute for it. Don't trivialize the same behavior in kids because they're "just kids".

Bullies will pick on anyone who is different from them. I was involved in several sports and excelled at them and I was still bullied. Sometimes being different from the rest of the herd pays off once you graduate college. Also, not all bulling is physical, a lot of is actually verbal/emotional.

[Anonymous]

Since the thread title says, "If your kids are the bullies", I will address that question by saying that I would be very upset if I discovered that my kids were the bullies.

I would tell them, "Look, what you are doing is so very wrong and should be stopped immediately. But at the very least, stop because you don't know how your victims are going to react. They may just bring daddy's loaded gun to school tomorrow and blow a hole in your chest. Knock it off!".

We don't need another Columbine.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn't be about retaliation. It should be about what's right. Do you kick a kitten because it's small and helpless? It won't bring a loaded gun and shoot you, but you still don't kick it or light it on fire. There are right things and wrong things. People need to know the difference. There are rules and rules are there for a reason. Sit on the plane with your seatbelt fastened until the pilot has the sign turned off. But if theres someone on the plane threatening the safety of the plane do you sit there simply because the pilot didn't turn off the light? That's not even an argument. Like adults, children need to learn right from wrong and it's our job to teach them. I don't use the "the people you abuse are going to rise up against you" argument. Most of them don't. They just live their lives scared and messed up because of bullies and that doesn't make the bullying acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since the thread title says, "If your kids are the bullies", I will address that question by saying that I would be very upset if I discovered that my kids were the bullies.

I would tell them, "Look, what you are doing is so very wrong and should be stopped immediately. But at the very least, stop because you don't know how your victims are going to react. They may just bring daddy's loaded gun to school tomorrow and blow a hole in your chest. Knock it off!".

We don't need another Columbine.

Good point.

If a bully won't stop for any other reason (because most just won't), they might stop if they understand that their victims might not always cower and remain victims; they might bring in "reinforcements".

[Anonymous]

This thread made me really angry. My baby is still little but if any kid bullied her i would not hesitate to cause another columbine which will be directed only to the bully. If parents cannot raise their kids right someone needs to take a stand. If my kid ends up being a bully then god help her. I was bullied as a kid and tried to kill myself because i couldnt take it anymore. It only stopped after i became a bully myself that the two girls who made my life hell stopped. I bullied them and thanks to technology i was able to intensify it. they both quit high school shortly after that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since the thread title says, "If your kids are the bullies", I will address that question by saying that I would be very upset if I discovered that my kids were the bullies.

I would tell them, "Look, what you are doing is so very wrong and should be stopped immediately. But at the very least, stop because you don't know how your victims are going to react. They may just bring daddy's loaded gun to school tomorrow and blow a hole in your chest. Knock it off!".

We don't need another Columbine.

Good point.

If a bully won't stop for any other reason (because most just won't), they might stop if they understand that their victims might not always cower and remain victims; they might bring in "reinforcements".

When I has in school I was bullied a lot. This was the 70's to early 80's, and I was very nerdy, mostly talking science and computers. One day, I was being pushed around my this punk, and I realized that a 6'2", I was significantly bigger than him. I beat the crap out of him. I was almost suspended for that, but was never bullied again. (I wasn't suspended because teachers came to my defense, pointing out that I was bullied a lot by this kid).