how can i become less socially inept?

[Anonymous]

Can you pretend you are popular and greet everyone as though you are that way? I notice a lot of guys who have been in the military are loud and never shy away when it comes to office interaction. Maybe do this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you think so much about things it's hard for you to get words out. I agree with PP that you want to practice, not saying it in your head (that won't actually help) but out loud in front of a mirror or in the shower outloud. You want to get your brain and mouth connected, right now the brain is going fine, but the mouth is freezing. So really start saying things to yourself out loud--multiple times, to help unfreeze that mechanism.

You can also start with smaller things though than a coffee spill in which you feel agonized, upset, mortified. For instance, you could just start by saying "good morning" to a person and then two persons each morning. Just releasing that freeze mechanism in little bits will help you.

GL.

Op here-this is a great practical suggestion. I'm going to try it.... And I dp fond myself shying away from even saying good morning - or I whisper it in response... And the man was a visitor and it happened 2 weeks ago, but it just really struck me at how poorly I conveyed my feelings.

Yes, this is a nice suggestion. I am also socially inept and I find that there little rehearsals can help. Also, I keep my world small and don't ever try to stand out. Wait a long time before knowing someone to say anything of substance. Take few chances...I still screw up though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you ever considered whether you have selective mutism? (?)

I'm curious, what is this, and how would it play out in OP's scenario?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You knocked his expresso over, gave him napkins to clean it up himself AND you didn't sorry "I'm sorry"? That's not socially inept...that's rude....Extremely rude, in fact.

You are calling her rude? Wow, a bitch calling someone rude who feels terrible for what she did.

I'd rather be considered rude than be a witch flying around on a broom all day. You suck.

Your reaction is extreme. Try Prozac, little one.

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