S/O - What are some nice things your MIL has done?

[Anonymous]

My inlaws suck, but I am so lucky to have the parents I have. They...

*Are my close friends. They keep me sane and they make me laugh.

*They want to be good in-laws and they want to know if we feel anything steps over the line.

*They think their grandchildren walk on water.

*They respect anc compliment our parenting style.

*They adore my husband.

*They babysit.

*They helped us be able to afford more interventions for our child with SN.

*My mother is such a role model to me because she is the most empathetic person I know.

*They are happy to have us over for dinner anytime, but the ball is always in our court because they don't want DH to feel like he has to-it's only if we want it.

*They have A LIFE. They don't want their lives to revolve around us at all. They are happy people who get together with friends, travel, read, go to shows/movies/concerts etc. If we do want to get together with them they are thrilled, but we have to let them know well enough in advance because they have an active social life.

[Anonymous]

My MIL is deceased but she gave her son (DH) the most beautiful vintage engagement ring, family heirloom to give to me -- exactly the ring of my dreams.
She made me feel so comfortable and welcome in her house, it was always where I wanted to be on the holidays. She literally gave up her own bed for me.
She was a role model for having a baby in your forties as she had DH at 43.

[Anonymous]

Gave birth to my husband

Told me she knew she could never replace my mother, but that she would support me any way she could, after my mom died

Paid for us to vacation with them for their anniversary

Watched the kids once so we could go away overnight to a wedding

[Anonymous]

My MIL and FIL flew here to help us renovate our basement.
They also helped us pack up our former home over a long weekend a few years back.
She bites her tongue when she disagrees with how we are raising our children.

I love my MIL. She is a giving, caring person who loves me
for who I am.

[Anonymous]

My MIL:

- Raised a great man, DH!
- Adores and supports our kids
- Respects the way we are raising her grandchildren and compliments us often
- Remembers anniversaries, birthdays and special events with cards and phone calls
- Makes an effort to see our kids 2-3x/year even though she lives across the country and FIL would prefer fewer visits
- Plays with my kids when she comes to visit, shares expenses and cooking duties, cleans up after herself and FIL on trips
- Skypes with my kids so she has a relationship with them even though she lives far away
- Has helped us a number of occasions financially, mostly with loans and sometimes with gifts
- Contributes annually to our kids' college funds and participates in school fundraisers

I could go on, but she is incredibly supportive and kind. I hope I can be this kind of MIL when (if) my kids get married.

[Anonymous]

The nicest thing my MIL ever did was to finally cease nagging us to move to Mass. from DC, once she found a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Raised DH to be the way he is, and made him so cute!

Also, came to stay for 10 days when I was 9 months pregnant with second baby and helped me so much around the house, and pampered me.

Not even my mom did that. I will never forget it.

[Anonymous]

When I went back to work, not only did my MIL come from all the way around the world to watch my daughter, she also cooked every single meal for us the entire time she was here. She brushed off thanks, saying "I know what it's like to be a working parent - when you're home, you should relax." We had our fair share of disagreements, but I appreciated the support from her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:boooooring lol

Bitter! Lol.

[Anonymous]

My MIL keeps her opinions to herself...unless we ask for them. Honestly, that is the BEST GIFT EVER. Her own MIL was very overbearing and I know it drove her crazy...and she brags about DH and I (and our DS) all the time to other people. Oh, and she has excellent taste in children's books. And she makes a delicious homeade bread.

She still drives me nuts sometimes...but she is a lovely person who raised a lovely family. She doesn't try to find her self worth through her kids and is very confident and secure in herself. I can only hope to be that kind of MIL to my child's wife!

[Anonymous]

I don't want a GD thing. If she babysat, it would tell me she was interested in someone other than herself. Love that she can travel but not babysit. Really? She has some point to make which has nothing to do with me, and her issues were there long before me. It's clear to anyone that knows her.

[Anonymous]

My ILs are terrific - they routinely do nice things for us in the gift and child watching sense.

But the truly wonderful stuff is that she routinely compliments me as a mother and a person. My MIL genuinely seems to *like* me, to respect me as a person, to be glad her son chose to spend his life with me, and to love me as a member of her family. AND she sides with me on those DH-is-being-a-bone-head issues. She knows I love him and she isn't blind to his faults - she has actually backed me up on more than one occasion.

So yeah - I lucked out in the IL department.

[Anonymous]

Best things I can say about my ILs: they don't drop in unannounced; they (she) sometimes offers gift receipts -mostly for ridiculous things they buy w/out first asking, and; she stopped microwaving DS's veggies in plastic when i asked (at least when I'm around). I'm glad to read about the great r-ships people have w/their ILs. I wish mine was better!

[Anonymous]

She stayed with me the first night in the hospital when I gave birth to my DD after an emergency c-section, and was amazing. She also came back and stayed with us at home and was tireless and devoted when I was a freaked out new mom.

She and my FIL have gave us countless gifts just because. They are very generous.

She raised amazing, brilliant, sensitive, compassionate children.

[Anonymous]

Told my FIL to leave me (us) alone.