I've never been a flower girl...

[Anonymous]

I have never been either, so you are not alone.

[Anonymous]

I've been a bridesmaid three times... and never a bride. So maybe the old adage "always a bridesmaid..." is true in my case! in two of the weddings, I was thrilled to be a part of things and the brides were awesome. in the third case, it was a horrible experience and I almost backed out several times - serious bridezilla.

i've never been a flower girl, but i secretly wish that one of my friends would ask my daughter to be a flower girl because she would love it and it would be fun to watch her walking down the aisle. she'd probably do something insane with the rose petals.

[Anonymous]

The only wedding I have ever been in is my own. Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes I consider it a relief.

[Anonymous]

I was never a flower girl, and I remember being envious of my friends who were. I was so shy I probably wouldn't have enjoyed it anyway.

I've only been a bridesmaid once, I was supposed to do it another time for my cousin (who was 19 or 20 and marrying her baby daddy) but got really sick and couldn't make it--a friend of hers who fit into the dress wore it. Not sure why I didn't get the dress back, since my mom paid for it and altered it.


I just never had that many close female friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:or a bride's maid or a maid of honor... Did I miss anything?

Honestly, I've never been to too many weddings to begin with. We moved a lot for my dad's work and we never lived close to family so we missed a lot of such events. (same goes for funerals but that's for another thread)

Once I finished college I moved a lot because of my job, lived in different states and countries and made a lot of friends but nothing really significant. After I begin using Facebook I got to reconnect with a lot of folks from school, college, and work and everybody is married, expecting or already have kids (same stage of life as me).

I noticed just the other day (after a friend complained about being a BM again - for the 5th or 6th time) that I was never asked to be part of a wedding party. I felt kinda relieved (when she explained the amount of $ that goes with it) but then I could not help but feel sad that nobody ever considered me so important in their lives to the point they'd invite me to be part of their wedding party

This is more a vent than anything else, but feel free to share your thoughts too.

You are way over the age to be a flower girl, so forget about that. I have been a bridesmaid 4 times and Maid of honor twice and I had six dresses in various colors and dyed satin heels to with each dress. I never word them again and gave all of them to Goodwill with the hope that someone, somewhere would find some use for them. It is a huge expense and I let my bridesmaids and MOH wear dresses they already had.

[Anonymous]

I was a bridesmaid once and enjoyed it. It was my best friend's wedding and she wasn't extravagant or demanding and I liked the other bridesmaids so it was fun to be in the wedding. That said, once was plenty! It was really expensive, especially since I was newly out of college and didn't have much money, and she had a full catholic mass so I was on my feet for a loooong time during the ceremony.

If I hadn't been in my friend's wedding I would probably feel the same way as you, OP, so I completely understand where you are coming from