Tragedy in Stamford: House Fire

[Anonymous]

this is an awful story but what i don't understand is how in the world a mother managed to save herself and didn't try to get her own children out? i'm finding that really hard to wrap my head around. hoping there's a part of the story i'm missing......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Latest I read is that the couple put embers from the fireplace in a bucket and left it in the hall and then went to bed and that's what caused the fire.

This reminds me of how dh always acts like I'm such a nervous nellie about things like this (in addition to leaving soup on low on the stove while out of the house). It's so irritating because I have to be tough enough to say or do something in spite of his attitude when it's easier to go along with him. It's like the "cool" police are going to show up and give him a ticket for worrying too much, which isn't cool. Drives me crazy.

"Normal" or not, I'm also a nervous Nellie when it comes to turning on Christmas tree lights when we leave the house, going to bed with a fire dying out in the fireplace, and starting a dishwasher just before we to to work in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is an awful story but what i don't understand is how in the world a mother managed to save herself and didn't try to get her own children out? i'm finding that really hard to wrap my head around. hoping there's a part of the story i'm missing......

At first, I was wondering the same but after seeing pictures, it appears the house was fully engulfed in flames (not just smoke). I'm guessing the staircase wasn't passable or perhaps had fallen as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this posted on a DC message forum? Did you remember to also post on the Berkeley Parents Network and Seattle Moms, too?

You are disgusting, go back to your hole and miserable life you vile person. It is a tragedy and it puts our lives into perspective. Believe it or not, others can emphathize whether a tragedy happened in their own home, in another ste, or even coutry. Hard to believe for you, we know.

[Anonymous]

i can't believe you guys. have some class and just express your sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is an awful story but what i don't understand is how in the world a mother managed to save herself and didn't try to get her own children out? i'm finding that really hard to wrap my head around. hoping there's a part of the story i'm missing......

Perhaps the master bedroom was downstairs, and the other rooms were upstairs; or perhaps she gave her parents the master bedroom for the night, and she stayed in a guest room downstairs. Nevertheless, reports suggest that she, her BF and her father all tried to save her children. Her father/mother and children perished. It's tragic, and I can't imagine what she must be feeling right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is an awful story but what i don't understand is how in the world a mother managed to save herself and didn't try to get her own children out? i'm finding that really hard to wrap my head around. hoping there's a part of the story i'm missing......

Perhaps she thought they were outside.
What would you have done? I guess you know because you were there and that is why you are holier and are asking that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this posted on a DC message forum? Did you remember to also post on the Berkeley Parents Network and Seattle Moms, too?

You are disgusting, go back to your hole and miserable life you vile person. It is a tragedy and it puts our lives into perspective. Believe it or not, others can emphathize whether a tragedy happened in their own home, in another ste, or even coutry. Hard to believe for you, we know.

its a sad story, but I think the PP just means if we posted about every sad story that happens in NYC or LA or Texas, then the board would be nothing but tragic news ...

[Anonymous]

My heart goes out to this mother.

I am so sorry this happened but I am glad OP posted this, because it has made my DH and I have a serious talk with our kids about what we would do if there was a fire at our house. We ordered fire ladders that can be attached to window sills and will show our kids how to use them when we get them.

[Anonymous]

I too wonder if the mom and her BF were sleeping on a different floor from the kids - but either way with a fire that violent and given how panicked she must have been, I'm sure there wasn't much she could have done. And who knows - maybe she thought she could most easily get to her kids via the outside of the house (climbing back in through a window or something). I just keep thinking, "couldn't at least one child have been saved so this poor woman would have something to live for?"

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone attempt to remove hot ashes from the fireplace? What reason could there have possibly been? You let the fire die in the fireplace and remove the ashes when they accumulate periodically, when they are cold. Is this tragedy the result of stupidity? Am I missing something here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone attempt to remove hot ashes from the fireplace? What reason could there have possibly been? You let the fire die in the fireplace and remove the ashes when they accumulate periodically, when they are cold. Is this tragedy the result of stupidity? Am I missing something here?

yes, it seems you are missing a heart, monday morning quarterback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My heart goes out to this mother.

I am so sorry this happened but I am glad OP posted this, because it has made my DH and I have a serious talk with our kids about what we would do if there was a fire at our house. We ordered fire ladders that can be attached to window sills and will show our kids how to use them when we get them.

Best response so far. We need to do the same thing. I hope others will too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My heart goes out to this mother.

I am so sorry this happened but I am glad OP posted this, because it has made my DH and I have a serious talk with our kids about what we would do if there was a fire at our house. We ordered fire ladders that can be attached to window sills and will show our kids how to use them when we get them.

Best response so far. We need to do the same thing. I hope others will too.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone attempt to remove hot ashes from the fireplace? What reason could there have possibly been? You let the fire die in the fireplace and remove the ashes when they accumulate periodically, when they are cold. Is this tragedy the result of stupidity? Am I missing something here?

yes, it seems you are missing a heart, monday morning quarterback.

I imagine everyone's feeling immense compassion for the poor mother, but it's perplexing how the ashes were disposed. I read an article about this before reading the DCUM thread, and I'm with PP, wondering if I'm missing something in this story.