So when do you cut the cord, PP? Since K, my daughter has fully understood the concept of a report card. Do I lie to her when I open the envelope? Do I tell her a fib as to why she's off on conference day? That seems over the top. Ownership does not begin in the upper elementary grades. By hiding their progress, you block metacognition, which should be reinforced at home. Furthermore, I'm not hands off. However, I do trust the teachers and respect their individualized teaching methods. So while I'm no micro-manager, I do focus on concepts at home. Over the years, I've seen a dumbing down, to be blunt, and much of that change stems from parents' need to micromanage the system. So I still say to leave Little Lulu alone; let her find her way, as you won't be in Lulu's life forever. |
So where do you read that I lie to my child about their progress? You keep taking my statements and imagining some scenario that is not written. I chose to communicate to my child in a way that I think is best. I take the report card and other information, interpret the information, then act on it appropriately. You will notice that I also write above that I trust and respect the teacher's judgement. Finally, when you say you focus on concepts at home and that you are not hands off, that contradicts or at least backs off your previous statement to leave LuLu alone (earlier you say "So I still say to leave Little Lulu alone; let her find her way, as you won't be in Lulu's life forever. ") So at least we are starting to reach some kind of agreement in some areas. For the record, I am not opposed to you showing your child the report card either. As you well know, children and parents come in a variety of styles, which works out fine most of the time. Finally, I absolutely disagree that parent micromanagement dumbs down the curriculum. How does this work? If anything, I have asked for more challenging work. The dumbing down of the curriculum comes from policy makers that are focused on impossible goals like NCLB or equal results across race, ethnicity, and SES. As long as those are the primary objectives of public education, rather then trying to teach every kid to be the best they can be, then the resources and curriculum focus will go to kids on the margin of the test scores and not kids on either end of test "score" scale. Bill Gates has pushed 2.0, not micromanaging parents. I would further say, that for some kids the curriculum is probably about right. I think in the end, you have me pegged as some kind of PIA parent stereotype that teachers hate. I am pretty sure if you talked to my kid's teachers, you would find that I rarely engage them outside of normal interactions like PTA events and P-T conferences. All I asked for above was an honest assessment on the report card, not some 'let's be tough early in the year' fake assessment. Afterall, I don't talk to you guys much, so I need accurate information. Somehow from that, you turned me into some kind of lying, misguided parent. I hope you give more benefit to your student's parents. |
OP here. We had a great conference with our teacher last week and she explained exactly what was meant (in her grading technique, at least) by P vs. ES. She grades according to the level at which the child is being taught. So, since our DC is reading at a third grade level and being presented material at that level, DC is therefore graded against that level (as opposed to against the general standards MC has for first grade reading). She also mentioned that a P means the child has mastered the material expected at that level. |
My kid is in a class that uses the new curriculum and he still gas the old report card. |
My kid is in a class that uses the new curriculum and he still gas the old report card. |