Help Please!

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on my best friend's husband, too. He is so funny, sweet, and I get really goofy and high-school-like when I talk to him. It's awful. I try not to talk to him that much, and I listen very hard when my best friend complains about how lazy he is and how he sleeps in all the time and forgets to get the groceries. I hear you, OP.

[Anonymous]

I think we need a support group, no moralists allowed. I'm the one being played. He did it again today, mild flirting followed up by nothing. He'll do it again tomorrow. I need to learn.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I talked to a friend about "the situation" yesterday and she helped me realize that this person is filling a gap in my life. Not necessarily a gap in my marriage, but in my life. I had a falling out with my best friend a few months ago and we used to talk all the time. Had other things happen and have lost touch with other friends (who do not have children) and person X who does have children and who randomly calls is helping me fill a friendship void. However, if it becomes flirtatious or sexual, etc then it is crossing the line. And we have NOT done that. So I am trying to keep it friendly and keep my head in reality. I realize I am only seeing X's good side, nothing mean, rude, etc and marriage is the good, the bad, and the ugly! I was cuddled up with DH on the couch last night watching tv and that is a special thing (NOT looking too sexy, not worried if someone burps, etc and we have YEARS of experiences together that I would never throw away). But, I do miss those butterflies, feeling sexy by other men, etc and just need to continue to take care of myself so I feel good about myself and that will help things with DH.

[Anonymous]

ride him cowgirl!