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Do you drink in front of your kids?
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Anonymous
| My father was an alcoholic, so I rarely drink. Maybe one glass of wine a couple times a year. DH drinks on occasion, but will only drink in front of DC when it's a social event, like a BBQ or a celebratory dinner. We don't drink on a regular basis in front of DC. We don't eschew it either. When the time comes, we hope to explain to DC that alcohol is fine, but requires self-control and responsibility. |
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| I have wine occasionally at dinner in front of my children. I'm the only wine drinker and coffee drinker in my family, and my DC has brought me my coffee before, so I wouldn't think it bad if she brought me a glass of wine. |
Anonymous
| DD is two and I've never had a drink in front of her. Her dad and I are separated and he's an alcoholic. I'm sure she's seen him drink or has seen beer cans around his place before. I was raised by my mom and stepdad, neither of whom were drinkers, but my bio dad was a serious alcoholic. One of my brothers is scared to even take a sip, because of his past (cleaning up vomit, for example). Part of the reason I don't drink in front of DD is because I never drank at home or family functions in the first place. I'm a social drinker, but I keep it exclusively to bars or maybe dinner with friends. I DO have issues with alcohol, namely a fear that I'm genetically predisposed to being an addict. I'm also vain and fear muffin top. Also, I feel as if I'm compensating for what she see from her father growing up. |
Anonymous
*for what she'll see FWIW, I've never come close to abusing alcohol. |
Anonymous
For the life of me, I do not understand why some people think that not drinking at all is such a virtue.... |
Anonymous
I think some people don't feel the need to consume anything that may alter their perception. Personally, I applaud them. There are not many people who can do that. The holier than thou attitude sucks, but I still like that they don't need to put anything in their bodies to be social or deal with life. That, or as some have stated here, they saw what drinking could do to you and chose the opposite path. |
Anonymous
| I don't drink, but not because I feel so virtuous. I just don't like the taste, and I don't like feeling "altered." I grew up with a dad who had a beer once a week. It just wasn't a big deal in our family. In my house, I'm more concerned about not drinking much soda in front of the kids. |
Anonymous
When you live with, grow up with, or any other way have to deal with an alcoholic or alcoholism then it's very much a virtue that one doesn't drink. If you haven't experienced alcoholism or been touched by a "drunk" then do not judge people who actively chose not to drink. |
Anonymous
You sound like a load of fun. Let's exchange emails and get together! |
Anonymous
My uncle was a drunk, as was my godfather, and I STILL think 09/04/2011 22:27 is acting high and mighty. |
Anonymous
Let's take her to Vegas. I bet she's tons o fun at the craps table. |
Anonymous
For the life of me, I do not understand why some people think that not drinking at all is such a virtue.... When you live with, grow up with, or any other way have to deal with an alcoholic or alcoholism then it's very much a virtue that one doesn't drink. If you haven't experienced alcoholism or been touched by a "drunk" then do not judge people who actively chose not to drink. Are you so clueless that you don't realize bold poster was being judgmental? |
Anonymous
| PPs have it right. Having a glass of wine at home or a beer at a social gathering in front of your child is not something to feel guilty about. Getting drunk, whether it is in front of your kids or not, is an issue that needs to be addressed. OP, I think that is simply your upbringing (which I am not attacking in any way) that is making you feel guilty. As a parent, there are so many things you make yourself feel guilty about it's like the menu at Cheesecake Factory. Sometimes you just have to limit your guilt options and sleep a little better at night. |
Anonymous
Interesting! My parents never drank either. Nothing at all. I ended up being a HUGE drinker in college and grad school and definitely did some stupid sh*t that I really hope my kid doesn't ever do. I finally cut back on my drinking after I was pregnant with DD. We plan on taking the moderation approach and definitely NO drinking and driving. DD is only 5 and sees us enjoy the occasional drink but we will never be drunk in front of her and constantly talk about how alcohol is for grown ups. |
Anonymous
Once at a grocery store, I was picking up a gallon of milk and a bottle of wine. I was getting one of those big bottles of wine because we were having people over. 2yo DC was sitting in the cart and told everyone in line around us "this is mommy's wine. That's my milk and this is mommy's wine" 
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