Don't you miss being young

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Anonymous wrote:I don't miss it because I had no confidence and was unhappy. I wish I'd enjoyed myself more, and I wish I'd let myself just be myself. I'm better at doing that now.

me too!

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I miss sleeping. I used to say, "I can't function with less than 8 hours of sleep." HA! Little did I know...

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I wouldn't mind going back for a day just to have a little non-guilty fun but living it once was enough. And the memories make me smile!

[Anonymous]

No because we were that way until close to 35. Now at 41 about 1 night a week is all I can handle. No regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't miss it because I had no confidence and was unhappy. I wish I'd enjoyed myself more, and I wish I'd let myself just be myself. I'm better at doing that now.

me too!

Same here. I do miss the energy and metabolism I had then. Also, I miss being unencumbered in that we could roll out of bed on the weekend at 9.30 or 10 and the biggest challenge was deciding where to eat out. But that has nothing to do with being young- that's more of a have no kids lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I'd miss my 20's if I didn't go all out during those years like I did. Now, I'm just over it. Sure, occasionally it'd be nice to have some non-kid times but doesn't outweigh how I like my life now. Would I like to have my 20's body? Definitely!!

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Anonymous wrote:I worked my ASS off through college and after college. There was no going out from Thursday to Sunday. There was very little drinking. I "party" now more as the mother of a preschooler than I did in my 20s, if that gives you a picture of how hard I was on myself back then.

I much prefer my life today, with relative financial comfort and especially the self-confidence that comes from simple life experience.. What I'd REALLY like is to have the skin and energy of a 22-year old here in my 35-year-old life.

I hear ys sister. Me too, but I am 41!

[Anonymous]

I loved my 20s - was in grad school nearly the whole time (did an MA and then PhD) and was filled with all of the possibility of the future. Everything seemed so doable! But like other PPs, I'll take being in my 40s for my self-confidence and career stability, not to mention my wonderful DH and DCs. Honestly, the only things, if you can call them that, that I really miss from my 20s are my parents and gradparents, who were all alive then, and now all are gone. I would give anything to have the joy of having dinner out with my parents and spending my summers with them, and also spending long spring breaks with my grandparents. I miss them all so much!

[Anonymous]

No - I do miss my late 20's, early 30s when we used to go out to dinner all the time with a large group of friends and do things like play tennis, golf, bike, etc. for fun, before any of us had kids. OTOH, I really love being my age now (49) because I am more confident, have money to spend, I still look pretty good, my kids are a little bit more independent and I have a sense of 'freedom' in that I can do what I want. I have a lot of energy, I don't think age has much to do with that.

[Anonymous]

I want the knowledge and confidence I have now at 38 and the body I had then at 22. I could take over the world!! Or at least get much better boyfriends than I did then.

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You're never too old to dance. Keeps you young.

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I miss my 20s a lot. I love my children and husband, but in those days, everything was ahead of me. I've gotten everything I wanted back then (except an amazing career, but one must choose), and I don't find that much to look forward to now, sadly. I'm in my 50s, though. I had my youngest child when I was almost 46. I'd love to have another child, but I'm much too old and tired to do it all again. I miss the energy of my 20s, and yes, y'all, no matter how fit you stay, you do lose energy and mental focus, no matter how hard you try to maintain it. Perimenopause sucks. On the other hand, I was lonely in my 20s before DH, and I always felt something was lacking.

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Anonymous wrote:I enjoy my life so much more now at 30 because I am fitter, feel more confident, look better and love caring for my kids.
Never went clubbing, don't drink.

This is how I feel. Nothing gives me greater pleasure than being a mom (and wife). My child's smile is so worth everything.

[Anonymous]

I like my life now but I do miss my 20s including all the mistakes I made. I loved that time just as much as I'm loving being the mom of two under two right now--it is just very different. There are days that I would give my first bOrn for the ability to go float down a river with a group of friends and then go out for beers after.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and pregnant with my second. About the only thing I really miss about my youth is my energy. By the time I got married at 34, I was done with the party scene. I sometimes miss my ability to make decisions for myself, but that is a function of being part of a family, not being older.

(I sometimes look at my six year old and miss childhood when there was no real responsibility, but not my 20s).

I am much more interested in the fertility aspect of your post. I am 43 and ttc my first as a single person. Were you ttc? for how long? Inquiring minds want to know---please do tell!