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Not to be annoying but does anyone else look at their baby and just beam at how happy you are
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Anonymous
And you know what? Those parents who do suceed in their dream to have kids should beam away for all of us to see. They should make a beam so bright that it rivals the sun! |
Anonymous
| PP here meant to say SUCCEED!!! |
Anonymous
| Its lovely to read this thread...but makes me sad because I don't feel this way. I had PPD diagnosed late at 9m and have been taking medication for about a month but still don't get that glow/happiness/fulfillment that I always expected. I know that I love my son, but I find it hard to feel connected with him which is upsetting, and I can't understand it after carrying him for 9 months and feeling so happy pregnant! I am so happy it is not this way for others though... wonderful to hear your stories. |
Anonymous
You love your child just as much as EVERYONE else on here! Those pesky hormones are really doing a number on you though. Just curious, did you have a fairly normal birth and was your son healthy, meaning free from reflux or something else that might cause excessive crying on his part? I'm the poster who wanted to have more babies right away (but my son has been sick until now). My son was a VERY easy baby and is a very easy toddler. He really makes parenting a breeze. His medical condition did not start until he was around a year old, so I was adjusted to being a mom and was equipped to deal with his problems at that point. However, if I had had to deal with a baby crying due to reflux or some sort of other ailment that causes a cranky baby, I'm not sure if I'd feel so rosy. Maybe I'm making assumptions here, but I do have to say that having upset hormones is no fun. I'm sorry this thread makes you sad, but your feelings are completely normal and common and it does not mean you are any less of a proud mom or loving mom, you're just going through a hard time that will in time pass. xoxo |
Anonymous
What a sad post. What would make my friends (or any "real" friends I would think) feel bad is for me to stifle my joy because I perceive they should be pitied and would be diminished by my happiness. Look at what you wrote - you think your friends would feel bad because you're happy. |
Anonymous
| I have moments when I beam, and others when I feel any number of emotions that I may not be proud of (lucikly, the good moments far outnumber the bad). And I have to admit that when I check up on my little one at night and she's curled up in her crib, I do feel like the luckiest person on the planet - she seems so at peace that I can't help but feel content and amazed to have DD in my life. |
Anonymous
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Agree wholeheartedly with OP. My DCs are just yummy...love them so much we're working on #3!
I just love babies -- my babies, my friends' babies, strangers' babies! Kids are the best! 
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Anonymous
Sorry, this is ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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OP here-thanks for all who have commented.
For the one who said we need to remember others who can't have kids-I understand what you mean to an extent. I think what I was talking about was showing a genuine love to your children--This is different than someone who specifically says to someone single or someone who doesn't have children-I feel so blessed to have my two beautiful daughters (someone said this to a friend of mine at a reunion who was one of the few people not married and no children and she felt badly. This person said it in a show-offy way though-that is the difference. |
Anonymous
It is not ridiculous, it is considerate. I would not show off my obvious happiness about my kids to my friends I know have trouble conceiving. I dont want to hurt them (and being on the IF side, I know it hurts like hell to see happy families). They know us and know we are happy, but i will not sit with them at the garden, look at my kids and say, aaah, arent my kids so amazingly cute, and wonderfu and everything to me? no. |
Anonymous
no one here was taking about a scenario where they were telling everyone how great their kids are, including public overt over the top gushes. However, happiness and contentment is not something that can be hidden. Should we all just look glum and unhappy for the sake of someone else who might not be happy? |
Anonymous
| Before I had kids, I would see my all friends gaga over their children and I just didn't get it. Now I do, and I cherish this feeling. It is what it is and I don't try to hide it from friends struggling with infertility, nor do I go out of my way to show it to them. |
Anonymous
You are a truly gracious, warm, and open-hearted person. Thank you. I hope you and your child(ren) have many wonderful, happy, and joyful years ahead of you. I love seeing same-gendered couples with kids. We know several. To me there is something very very dear about such perserverance and desire. I pp on this thread also and would just like to say that it was actually really nice to be able to express my feelings of love for my children with total abandonment because I do try and be very respectful of friends and strangers who do not have my fortunne in this. It is terrible how many women of our generation have fertility probelms either due to age or bad luck. |
Anonymous
A parent restraining her joy isn't going to ease the suffering of someone struggling with infertiliy. This is condsending. In fact, when there are those who struggle with infertility, it seems callous to be anything other than utterly greatful and happy for your child. |
Anonymous
| When I was in the hospital nursing class two days after she was born, I looked at my husband and said soemthing to the effect of 'it's like there is a light shining out of her' -- my husband was kind enough not to laugh. She is now almost 6 and she is the best part of my day. |