SAHM to 4 month old and BORED

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clean your house. Cook 3 meals a day. You don't have to be out of the house 12 hours a day doing activities.

Lurk on DCUM and post bitchy comments all day like PP!

Deal with it.

That's why you can't stay married and if you do, you are miserable. Take care of your home and stop spending all day socializing. No man wants to be married to a foolish woman who can't manage a home.

I have to agree with this. If you are a SAHM who can't manage to take care of ONE kid and have dinner on the table by the time your husband walks in the dinner, what is your point? I work and take care of 2 kids, and 3 nights a week I manage to cook a meal for us. I thought the purpose of being a SAHM was to rear the children and manage the household. Love how you SAHMs brag about getting to be a SAHM then complain about it.

[Anonymous]

OP, 4 to 6 months are the "Golden Months" of a baby's life, assuming the child is eating and sleeping well and has no medical concerns.

They've settled into life outside the womb. They sleep a LOT. They are in some kind of a sleep-wake-eat-poop routine that's pretty predictable. they don't need much stimulation; just using their eyes and turning their heads to see something new is plenty! Maybe they discover their feet one day.

When my second child was this age I was amazed at how little attention I paid her. It seemed I could just put her in a bouncy seat or a swing for a while and move her from time to time while I was attending to the needs of my 3 year old.

Of course that golden period didn't last long. Before you know it the child will hit the much more demanding 6 to 9 month stage, when they are starting to get around and are frustrated that they can't and when the start crying whenever you leave the room because they can remember longert han 1 minute.

So just enjoy the quiet now. You have to stay in more because of the heat, so plan home activities that you won't have time to do for a long time. Organize your photos, clean your basement, read a long novel you've been meaning to read, take an online course. Whatever you choose, do it for yourself but don't plan on having more than 2 months to get it done.

Just don't think life will be like this for very long, and enjoy the peace.

[Anonymous]

Does your baby need to be entertained constantly? If not, read a book, read the paper, catch up with friends, etc. I would LOVE to feel bored even just for a day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love being able to be a SAHM, but I am bored! And now that it's getting hot, we won't be able to be out & about as much. She's not old enough yet for swimming more than a few minutes, nor for the playground, yet she gets fussy if we're at a museum and the like (not a newborn blob anymore!)

We already take yoga together. Any other recs for things to do that doesn't cost a million dollars?

Sooo, you love being bored?

How about this -you have just discovered that being a SAHM is boring and its not what you bargained for.

It doesn't really get any better. In fact, it gets worse when your kid can walk because then you are both bored and tired.

[Anonymous]

Wow. It doesn't take much to bring out the meanies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get pregnant again.

I was bored with #1, got pregnant again when DC was 6 months old. Best decision I ever made. Having 2 around is fun. Plus, they wont ever remember NOT having each other. I promise you wont be bored for the next 18 years!!

Dumbest. Advice. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Well, 4-6 months were the opposite of the golden months for me-- they were pretty horrible because naps had become pretty much nonexistent and my DD continued being fussy. The only way I survived was by going out and joining a mom's group and basically doing something almost every day. Now that DD is older and can entertain herself at home, I can go back to reading in my free time/cooking/tidying up/surfing the web and am happy to be a homebody! But yeah, 4 months was hard for me to be at home with her because I couldn't just prepare a meal or eat a meal or take a shower or pee without hearing DD screaming.

What's your kid's temperament?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clean your house. Cook 3 meals a day. You don't have to be out of the house 12 hours a day doing activities.

Lurk on DCUM and post bitchy comments all day like PP!

Deal with it.

That's why you can't stay married and if you do, you are miserable. Take care of your home and stop spending all day socializing. No man wants to be married to a foolish woman who can't manage a home.

PBFC! I WOH, but stayed home for six months after my daughter was born. If I cooked three meals a WEEK when my daughter was that age, I considered it a success.

It turns out that my husband DID want to be married to a foolish woman who can't manage a home. If her daughter were five years old, I would agree with you (but would be much nicer about it) but four months? wow.

What is PBFC??

[Anonymous]

Nowhere did OP say that her house wasn't clean or that she wasnt making meals for her family or not managing to get things done around the house. She just wants to get out and was looking for some baby friendly places to go. We've all been there.

I really don't understand why people come to DCUM just to be bitchy trolls.

[Anonymous]

So much nastiness. OP, I hope you realize that the women posting ugly comments are insecure. There is simply no other explanation. The very thought of mothers staying home to care for their children sends many (not all) working mothers into guilty mommy overdrive. It's silly and it's completely illogical. But it's just the way it is. Same thing happens when a mother who works outside the home asks for advise...the militant stay at home mother crowd shows up to tell her she is outsourcing her kids to the lowest bidder.

Women suck sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I hear ya OP. I have two kids, the youngest is also 4 months. She's toted around following the older one's activities which works for us. Makes me wonder what I did with just one at this age.

My best advice: get out each day for something, find a mommy group asap (yes, there are very nice ones out there,) and don't fret if you're out doing something just for yourself with the baby along. Like getting coffee and reading a magazine.

I would also look into a gym with daycare. I've met some great moms of the same age kids this way too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clean your house. Cook 3 meals a day. You don't have to be out of the house 12 hours a day doing activities.

Lurk on DCUM and post bitchy comments all day like PP!

Deal with it.

That's why you can't stay married and if you do, you are miserable. Take care of your home and stop spending all day socializing. No man wants to be married to a foolish woman who can't manage a home.

PBFC! I WOH, but stayed home for six months after my daughter was born. If I cooked three meals a WEEK when my daughter was that age, I considered it a success.

It turns out that my husband DID want to be married to a foolish woman who can't manage a home. If her daughter were five years old, I would agree with you (but would be much nicer about it) but four months? wow.

What is PBFC??

Peeps Be F***g Crazy!

[Anonymous]

OP, it doesn't sound like you have a playgroup. That's what you do when they're that age- it gets you out of the house and begins the socialization process with your child. And, they're free.

Enjoy this time, before you know it they are walking, talking and very independent. They are too big to sleep in your arms and are able to feed themselves choosing what they want.

To those that think a SAHM responsibility is cooking and cleaning...clearly you have never stayed home! It's not 1950 anymore!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, 4-6 months were the opposite of the golden months for me-- they were pretty horrible because naps had become pretty much nonexistent and my DD continued being fussy. The only way I survived was by going out and joining a mom's group and basically doing something almost every day. Now that DD is older and can entertain herself at home, I can go back to reading in my free time/cooking/tidying up/surfing the web and am happy to be a homebody! But yeah, 4 months was hard for me to be at home with her because I couldn't just prepare a meal or eat a meal or take a shower or pee without hearing DD screaming.

What's your kid's temperament?

I did say they were the golden months IF the child had good digestion and sleep! Some kids are still working those out at that age, have colic or digestive problems or difficulty nursing. But if all is functioning normally they are pretty easy months.... which is what I assumed because OP wasn't writing "My four month old is driving me crazy! She's never happy, I can't put her down for a minute, she'll only sleep on my chest, I can't even go out to a class or shopping because she's always crying...." She said she was bored, can't think of things to do with her child. My point is -- this won't last forever -- wait 2 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it doesn't sound like you have a playgroup. That's what you do when they're that age- it gets you out of the house and begins the socialization process with your child. And, they're free.

Enjoy this time, before you know it they are walking, talking and very independent. They are too big to sleep in your arms and are able to feed themselves choosing what they want.

To those that think a SAHM responsibility is cooking and cleaning...clearly you have never stayed home! It's not 1950 anymore!

Staying at home = boring.