Getting kicked out of daycare

[Anonymous]

My DN (niece or nephew) was kicked out of in-home daycare at 10 months. I won't go into specifying behaviors here but it was medical and the providers were frightened of the symptoms. Looking back, my heart breaks for my B and SIL: we have a child the same age and I was too self-absorbed to pay as much attention as I wish I had to providing comfort. Fast forward five years -- DN is thriving after the right kind of PT and OT and DX along with meds and is enrolling in a very strong kindergarten next year. Hang in there OP. I am not sure if this will fit your situation, also, but Erma Bombeck's book Motherhood The Second Oldest Profession has a beautiful essay for moms of special needs kids. It will give you a boost. Take care.

[Anonymous]

My ds was kicked out of private nursery school and we sent him to Temple Sinai where he thrived. They got him an eval, we got the right people working with him and 3 yrs later he is in a public school and now we actually look forward to PT conferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was kicked out of daycare at 18 months and I am now a relatively functional adult, although I am a lawyer. Just something to give you a bit of optimism, OP.

Hmm. So you never got over that difficult personality thing after all, did you?

(Kidding! Kidding!)

Congratulations PP, that is a helpful and inspiration post.

[Anonymous]

My son wasn't kicked out, but a particularly nursery school that people love made my life a living hell until we left. They said horrible things about him and diagnosed him with although these things that turned out not to be true. We did go through child find and an eval and came up with nothing, except he did some ot. He is in public kindergarten and while he is still a little impulsive and sometimes gets in trouble, all the things the nursery school said have not come true, but he did need a different environment.

My point it, sometimes schools are wrong. Some schools are a bad fit. Even if they don't kick you out, you may want to look somewhere else. Going somewhere else was the best thing we ever did.

[Anonymous]

DS was kicked out of full-time preschool at age 3. But not before the director assured me my son's problems were our fault as parents. When I brought up concerns about possible ASD she said she had been doing this for 30 years, and had taught many spectrum kids, and DS couldn't possible be ASD. We just needed to be better parents.

Kennedy Krieger disagreed. I got him in an amazing special needs preschool, but only part time. Unfortunately, I had to pretty much give up my hard-fought career to stay home and be a "special needs mom". (We tried a nanny to do all the driving and remaining daytime hours, but she was not kind to DS, who is a handful). But DS is now doing great.

I find it so ironic that I went back to work weeks after giving birth to both kids, endured pumping at work for months, powered through the workday after countless sleepless nights, missed so many special baby milestones to protect a career I then had to give up.