Hiroshima in the morning?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mother of two young kids, happy and fulfilled. Would I take advantage of a great opportunity that required me to be away from my family for 6 months. Sure. Would I be happy that I was away from my family - no. Would I nevertheless enjoy and make the most of that time - yes.

Maybe during their teenage years...rght now they are so juicy, cuddly and tell me they love me daily. I could never imagine walking out on them now....and I have 2 boys the same ages her boys (3 and 5) were when she packed up and left.

That's what I was thinking. When they are older, yes, I *think* I could do it. Right now, NO way possible could I leave my son. I just love him to much! I do have plans to do some traveling for work when DS is older, but no longer than a few days at a time. Actually, I would love to take him with me wherever it may be so he can see the country/world. Now, if it was just DH and I....yes, I could do it in a heartbeat! Love DH, but my career is a part of me. DS ALWAYS comes first, then me, then DH. I know some people may not order it that way, but that is how it is for me.

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For the moms who married young and had kids and think they "missed out" - you didn't. You can't go back and redo that period of time no matter how hard you tray and the kind of things you do in your early 20's...well they paled in comparison to the joy I had of having my kids in my 30's.

I think the women are deluding themselves believing they have a good relationship with their kids and the abandonment issues are really huge for the kids.

I think I actually like Tiger mom a tiny bit after reading this.

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I didn't think she ever said she didn't want to be a mother anymore. She has joint custody, though her husband has primary physical custody, they all live on the same block and she sees her kids frequently. It's weird, for sure, and not a choice I would make but I don't think she said she didn't want to be a mom.

You're right - but my biggest problem with this, and granted I only read the article in Salon and not the book - is that she has said in multiple published articles that she never wanted to be a mother and only had children to make her husband happy. Her kids will easily be able to read that when they're older. In my opinion that is something that is best kept to yourself.

We have friends who had a baby who has a LOT of special needs - child is now a tween. At some point there was a lawsuit relating to her care during the pregnancy and delivery, and the mother said on the record that if she had known how her child would turn out that she would have had an abortion instead of going through with the pregnancy. I don't blame her for feeling that way, but for God's sake keep it to yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone read this book? It is about a married mother of two children (3 and 5 years old) who travels to Japan to do research for her book and who discovers during her time away that she really does not want to be a mother and wife anymore. Subsequently, the marriage dissolves and she is on her own path recreating her life.

I think, it is interesting, but as much as I love my career and my hobbies, I could never leave my children or my home and family. There was an interview on the Today Show with the writer of the book today and they said that during a poll 28% of women said they could see themselves leaving their children and families to rediscover themselves and recreate a new life for themselves.

I read an article on MSNBC but didn't see the show - I got a completely different take. I didn't think she ever said she didn't want to be a mother anymore. She has joint custody, though her husband has primary physical custody, they all live on the same block and she sees her kids frequently. It's weird, for sure, and not a choice I would make but I don't think she said she didn't want to be a mom.

Her words: "We stay in touch by phone, IM, Skype a few times a week. I hear about their lives and give support."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone read this book? It is about a married mother of two children (3 and 5 years old) who travels to Japan to do research for her book and who discovers during her time away that she really does not want to be a mother and wife anymore. Subsequently, the marriage dissolves and she is on her own path recreating her life.

I think, it is interesting, but as much as I love my career and my hobbies, I could never leave my children or my home and family. There was an interview on the Today Show with the writer of the book today and they said that during a poll 28% of women said they could see themselves leaving their children and families to rediscover themselves and recreate a new life for themselves.

I read an article on MSNBC but didn't see the show - I got a completely different take. I didn't think she ever said she didn't want to be a mother anymore. She has joint custody, though her husband has primary physical custody, they all live on the same block and she sees her kids frequently. It's weird, for sure, and not a choice I would make but I don't think she said she didn't want to be a mom.

Her words: "We stay in touch by phone, IM, Skype a few times a week. I hear about their lives and give support."

Like I said, I didn't read the book just the article. I thought she said she saw them all the time since they lived on the same street, but maybe I got confused. I honestly don't care enough to go back and read the article, so maybe I remembered it wrong. Either way it's weird!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone read this book? It is about a married mother of two children (3 and 5 years old) who travels to Japan to do research for her book and who discovers during her time away that she really does not want to be a mother and wife anymore. Subsequently, the marriage dissolves and she is on her own path recreating her life.

I think, it is interesting, but as much as I love my career and my hobbies, I could never leave my children or my home and family. There was an interview on the Today Show with the writer of the book today and they said that during a poll 28% of women said they could see themselves leaving their children and families to rediscover themselves and recreate a new life for themselves.

I read an article on MSNBC but didn't see the show - I got a completely different take. I didn't think she ever said she didn't want to be a mother anymore. She has joint custody, though her husband has primary physical custody, they all live on the same block and she sees her kids frequently. It's weird, for sure, and not a choice I would make but I don't think she said she didn't want to be a mom.

Her words: "We stay in touch by phone, IM, Skype a few times a week. I hear about their lives and give support."

Like I said, I didn't read the book just the article. I thought she said she saw them all the time since they lived on the same street, but maybe I got confused. I honestly don't care enough to go back and read the article, so maybe I remembered it wrong. Either way it's weird!

Sorry! I made a mistake. The above quote was by another mother (Talyaa Liera) who made a similar decision (in same article).