Cocktails and Babies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful if you're drinking with a baby especially if the baby is still awake and active - you don't want to hamper your reaction time if baby slips and is about to bonk his/her head, or if baby is crawling towards the staircase, etc. Also, what if something happened and you had to rush to the hospital - do you have neighbors or family that could "fill in" for you?

How is old your child? Are you BFing? How tipsy are you getting - I'd be mindful of child endangerment too.

I guess it really depends on your drinking threshold in combination with how sleep deprived you already are.

I don't know, it is your judgement call, but I would never forgive myself if something happened because I was too busy enjoying my buzz.

Oh please.

[Anonymous]

People really do respond to alcohol differently, so what's okay for one person isn't necessarily okay for another. I simply can't have 2 drinks and do much of anything (let alone take care of a baby). Two martinis would pretty much incapacitate me, at least for any activity requiring any meaningful care or thought. I just have a low tolerance for alcohol that has only gotten worse over the years. My husband can have two drinks and is fine. So my advice to the OP is, you probably know if it's okay. And either you're asking out of an abundance of caution or to affirm what you already feel, or because something inside you is telling you it's not okay. And I would listen to that voice, personally, if that's the case. You're in the best position to answer this question for yourself. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful if you're drinking with a baby especially if the baby is still awake and active - you don't want to hamper your reaction time if baby slips and is about to bonk his/her head, or if baby is crawling towards the staircase, etc. Also, what if something happened and you had to rush to the hospital - do you have neighbors or family that could "fill in" for you?

How is old your child? Are you BFing? How tipsy are you getting - I'd be mindful of child endangerment too.

I guess it really depends on your drinking threshold in combination with how sleep deprived you already are.

I don't know, it is your judgement call, but I would never forgive myself if something happened because I was too busy enjoying my buzz.

You sound like a blast to hang out with. Can I come over to your house Friday night and have dinner and kool-aid?

[Anonymous]

I drink wine when the kids are in bed, and I enjoy it. We take turns as well. I don't drink around my kids though. I just would be too worried that in the midst of getting my buzz on I may overdo it with the wine/cocktails and actually lose my judgement.

But that's just me. I know that when I am really in the mood to drink I sometimes overdo it, and I would have difficulties responding appropriately to my children.

[Anonymous]

I would personally make sure that one of us could drive to the hospital without getting a DUI in case of an emergency.

[Anonymous]

I'd be careful if you're drinking with a baby especially if the baby is still awake and active - you don't want to hamper your reaction time if baby slips and is about to bonk his/her head, or if baby is crawling towards the staircase, etc. Also, what if something happened and you had to rush to the hospital - do you have neighbors or family that could "fill in" for you?

How is old your child? Are you BFing? How tipsy are you getting - I'd be mindful of child endangerment too.

I guess it really depends on your drinking threshold in combination with how sleep deprived you already are.

I don't know, it is your judgement call, but I would never forgive myself if something happened because I was too busy enjoying my buzz.

There is nothing wrong with this post. She's simply raises issues for the OP to consider.

[Anonymous]

I drink a glass of wine while I'm cooking dinner or with dinner. We think of wine as part of the experience of a good meal. Beer can be too, depending on what we're eating. We don't drink liquor much because its taste interferes with the real taste of food, and eating well is frankly much more important to us than drinking. I want my children to understand the importance of wine within a cultural and food tradition. So drinking wine after the kids are in bed to get a buzz is not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I drink a glass of wine while I'm cooking dinner or with dinner. We think of wine as part of the experience of a good meal. Beer can be too, depending on what we're eating. We don't drink liquor much because its taste interferes with the real taste of food, and eating well is frankly much more important to us than drinking. I want my children to understand the importance of wine within a cultural and food tradition. So drinking wine after the kids are in bed to get a buzz is not for me.

How is this responsive to the OPs question? It sounds like you simply don't enjoy it (alcohol without food). That's not really what the original post is about.

[Anonymous]

For those who drink at night, you don't co-sleep, right? I'm guessing--hoping?--not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be careful if you're drinking with a baby especially if the baby is still awake and active - you don't want to hamper your reaction time if baby slips and is about to bonk his/her head, or if baby is crawling towards the staircase, etc. Also, what if something happened and you had to rush to the hospital - do you have neighbors or family that could "fill in" for you?

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Um, if it's that urgent, we would call 911. If we are talking a true emergency, I'm certainly not wating with a dying baby in the ER lounge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I drink a glass of wine while I'm cooking dinner or with dinner. We think of wine as part of the experience of a good meal. Beer can be too, depending on what we're eating. We don't drink liquor much because its taste interferes with the real taste of food, and eating well is frankly much more important to us than drinking. I want my children to understand the importance of wine within a cultural and food tradition. So drinking wine after the kids are in bed to get a buzz is not for me.

How is this responsive to the OPs question? It sounds like you simply don't enjoy it (alcohol without food). That's not really what the original post is about.

Gosh, PP. It seems like several of the prior responses are equally "not responsive to the OP's question." Why'd you single out mine? Sure, I enjoy a glass of wine or a beer without food sometimes. But I don't drink martinis to get drunk or buzzed when I'm caring for my child. Sorry to rain on your parade, but I'm more than a little past the age when I'd think that was okay for me to do. It's different if I'm out with the girls and not on child duty.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I both drink pretty frequently after bedtime, never before. But bedtime is 7 so it's not really much of an issue. We're talking a couple of beers or glass of wine, if I drank two martinis I think I'd be in bed for three days!

[Anonymous]

Ha! I'm unwinding right now drinking a big glass of Savignon Blanc while DS happily plays with his toys on the floor and wait for dad. I'm lovin it, the only thing that would make this better would be a big plate of Camebert cheese!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I drink a glass of wine while I'm cooking dinner or with dinner. We think of wine as part of the experience of a good meal. Beer can be too, depending on what we're eating. We don't drink liquor much because its taste interferes with the real taste of food, and eating well is frankly much more important to us than drinking. I want my children to understand the importance of wine within a cultural and food tradition. So drinking wine after the kids are in bed to get a buzz is not for me.

How is this responsive to the OPs question? It sounds like you simply don't enjoy it (alcohol without food). That's not really what the original post is about.

Gosh, PP. It seems like several of the prior responses are equally "not responsive to the OP's question." Why'd you single out mine? Sure, I enjoy a glass of wine or a beer without food sometimes. But I don't drink martinis to get drunk or buzzed when I'm caring for my child. Sorry to rain on your parade, but I'm more than a little past the age when I'd think that was okay for me to do. It's different if I'm out with the girls and not on child duty.

I'm not the original person who responded to you. I think it's because you sound like such a boring snob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I drink a glass of wine while I'm cooking dinner or with dinner. We think of wine as part of the experience of a good meal. Beer can be too, depending on what we're eating. We don't drink liquor much because its taste interferes with the real taste of food, and eating well is frankly much more important to us than drinking. I want my children to understand the importance of wine within a cultural and food tradition. So drinking wine after the kids are in bed to get a buzz is not for me.

How is this responsive to the OPs question? It sounds like you simply don't enjoy it (alcohol without food). That's not really what the original post is about.

Gosh, PP. It seems like several of the prior responses are equally "not responsive to the OP's question." Why'd you single out mine? Sure, I enjoy a glass of wine or a beer without food sometimes. But I don't drink martinis to get drunk or buzzed when I'm caring for my child. Sorry to rain on your parade, but I'm more than a little past the age when I'd think that was okay for me to do. It's different if I'm out with the girls and not on child duty.

I'm the one who said it wasn't responsive. If you had said you didn't think it was okay b/c you were on child-duty, I wouldn't have responded the way I did. It struck me as a bit off topic because it was more about what goes well with food than whether you should drink when responsible for child-rearing. But you've clarified your position and I apologize.