MCPS tardy policies

[Anonymous]

And how exactly is being late a "classic" sign of an abusive relationship? I can only speak for DH, but in his case, it's a complete inability to recognize the ACTUAL amount of time something takes, versus the amount of time he THINKS something will take (i.e, a shower should take 5 minutes, but in reality, it takes 10). Not abuse, just poor time management.

LOL my DH is the same way. It drives me nuts. When the kids start public school I will have to switch to doing drop off every morning.

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Anonymous wrote:And how exactly is being late a "classic" sign of an abusive relationship? I can only speak for DH, but in his case, it's a complete inability to recognize the ACTUAL amount of time something takes, versus the amount of time he THINKS something will take (i.e, a shower should take 5 minutes, but in reality, it takes 10). Not abuse, just poor time management.

Does the man hold down a job? If he does, I assume he knows how to manage his time. He just chooses not to do so at home.

[Anonymous]

or possibly he has the kind of job where it's OK or no big deal to arrive 10 min. late to things.

I know a few very successful medical professionals who are constantly keeping their patients waiting. The patients stick around because the doctors are otherwise very very good.

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Anonymous wrote:And how exactly is being late a "classic" sign of an abusive relationship? I can only speak for DH, but in his case, it's a complete inability to recognize the ACTUAL amount of time something takes, versus the amount of time he THINKS something will take (i.e, a shower should take 5 minutes, but in reality, it takes 10). Not abuse, just poor time management.

Does the man hold down a job? If he does, I assume he knows how to manage his time. He just chooses not to do so at home.

Yes, he has a job, but it's not the kind of job with many hard and fast deadlines, and it's also something he can do whenever. So he tends to work a lot at night, stay up way too late, and then be unable to get up and out of the house in the morning. He thinks he can be fast, but he can't actually do it. That is the problem.

[Anonymous]

One of the ways a school can not make AYP is through absences. I bet they are trying to make sure the tardies and absences are legit so they are more assured of making AYP on that target. There's no excuse for rudeness though.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't you just get your child to school on time? It's disruptive to the whole class when a child constantly arrives late. Not to mention setting a poor example.

NP here with the same issue. Yes, I can and do get her to school on time. But my DH, who takes her most days, cannot manage to function in the morning and get out of the house at an appropriate time. It drives me bonkers, because it's so incredibly disrespectful to the other kids and teachers to have a kid who is always wandering in whenever. If anyone has any suggestions for how to impress upon DH that he needs to get up earlier and get out of the house earlier, I'm all ears. This has been going on for over 2 years now, and apparently nothing I say or do can convince him to change.

Does he understand what he is teaching your child? That it is ok to be late to school/work/appointments, and inconvenience everyone else?

I would ask the school to work with him on this. They should cite your child for frequent tardiness, and you should send your DH to discuss with them.

He says he understands, but he refuses to get up any earlier in order to get his morning routine done earlier. Having the school talk to him is a good idea - apparently I am unable to get through, so maybe they will be. I can't wait until next year, when both kids will be in the same place and I can control drop-off. Although I almost feel like that's giving in to a kid who misbehaves until he gets what he wants.

Anyway, sorry to hijack the thread. It just pisses me off, and it's one of the few things DH does that drives me up and down a wall.

I'm sorry. I have no advice. Does your DH understand what a bad position he is putting your child in? To have to always be the one disrupting class? The "weird" one out?