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Trisomy diagnosis - I'm at a complete loss
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Anonymous
| So very sorry OP. You will get thru this. I terminated for a skeletal dysplasia in April. It was diagnosed after my 20 wk scan, no prior signs or issues w/ the pregnancy. I had L&D at GW and they were really kind to me, but overall of course very sad and scary experience for DH and I. I wanted to recommend that you check out the group boards on babycenter.com. Particularly the Termiation for Medical Reasons board, which has a lot of women who have been recently diagnosed and are struggling thru making sense of everything. My baby's diagnosis is 1 in 500,000. Unfortunately some things are beyond our control and just happen. It's not your fault and you will feel better with time. |
Anonymous
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OP, I am so very sorry to hear this...sending you virtual hugs. Whatever choice you make will be the right choice for you and your family. Please know that you are not alone and that it will get better. I had to terminate at 20 weeks last fall due to a severe infection in my uterus. It was the darkest day of my life. My doctors and the entire staff at Inova Fairfax were so kind, compassionate, and sensitive to my and my husband's needs. We got to hold our daughter, name her and have her baptized - this is what felt right to us, and helped us to process our grief. Our families and friends were very supportive. So many women shared their own stories of loss with me - it helped to know that I was not alone and that it was not my fault. In the end, the only thing that really helped me was the passage of time. At first, every day was a struggle. Then I started to have some good days. Eventually, there were more good days than bad days. It's not something that I can ever forget, but I've made peace with it and we're moving forward now.
You are stronger than you know - you will get though this. It may not seem like it now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there. |
Anonymous
| OP, I read your post last night and watched the Oprah video. I have been thinking about you and wondered what I could contribute to this post, if anything, that might be helpful and decided that it is better to write to you than to say nothing at all. We need to know there are other out there. I don't have any great words of wisdom. My heart truly aches for you. I wish there were some magic words or ways to tell you what the "right" thing to do is. Unfortunately, I don't think there is. I will pray for you that you are able, somehow, to know what is right for your and your baby and your family and to accept as one pp stated that some things are just out of our control. What ever you choose I pray that you will be at peace with your decision. I hope you are able to find the love and support you will need and more at this time of unimaginable pain and difficultly. Sending warm hugs to you. |
Anonymous
OP said trisomy 18. |