How much time would you devote to this, and without feeling like you’re not “in the moment”?

[Anonymous]

I'm not really seeing the big deal. Do you not take any pictures on vacation? Take a couple each day and send at the end of the day. I don't see how that takes you so "out of the moment."

[Anonymous]

It’s so easy and takes so little time to take photos or videos with your phone. It doesn’t need to be posed and curated, just snap some photos and record some stuff as you walk around seeing the sites.

We just got Back from a trip, and we sent a few photos a day the grandparents (by text— took maybe 30 sec), and also had the kids FaceTime with them in the hotel room for a few minutes some evenings if we were back early enough. No big deal at all.

[Anonymous]

One day in 20-30 years you’ll be the old grandparents who can no longer travel.

Imagine how much you might enjoy staying connected to your kids and grandkids when they travel.

We’ve always called or FaceTimed the grandparents when we vacation, so it’s second nature to my kids. It’s not unusual for one of my kids to proactively FaceTime the grandparents when we are someplace cool. I’m glad my kids will think, “Grandpa would think this is cool—let’s FaceTime him.”

I’m hopeful if I make it to old age that my kids will think of me and do the same. I feel like I’m investing in my kids and myself when I text a pic or FaceTime the grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Since our grandparents are so well traveled, we enjoyed FaceTiming them while we were out and about. It brought back memories for them, and my kids enjoyed sharing it with them.

And we’ve traveled to some random but very cool places that they’ve enjoyed seeing via FaceTime.

[Anonymous]

I am totally on team "this isn't that hard, find a way to make it work" but I am not going to encourage people to face time more in public, especially at tourist attractions.

[Anonymous]

There’s more to why this bothers you - because it seems a trivial request. Are your parents demanding? Do you feel self conscious or anxious around them? Do you have crappy memories from family trips? Something is going on.

[Anonymous]

I'll take a couple pictures and a video or two throughout the day to send to my mom. It takes maybe....5 min out of the day? I guess I don't get the big deal. Don't you want a few pictures for yourself? You don't need to document your entire time somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s more to why this bothers you - because it seems a trivial request. Are your parents demanding? Do you feel self conscious or anxious around them? Do you have crappy memories from family trips? Something is going on.

This. I'm not a huge picture/video taker. A few here and there for ourselves but that's about it. I grew up with parents who documented everythingggggg. We have entire albums dedicated to one trip. My dad would bring his video recorder everywhere. So my mom will ask for pictures/videos constantly when we are on vacation. I'll send maybe 6 a day and am always hit with "that's it?!? Send me more!". And I just want to live in the moment and not be tied to capturing everything.

[Anonymous]

I photograph a lot when I'm on vacation, but I never film anything.
But if I had housebound parents, and they asked me for videos from my travels, I would be happy to send them some videos.

[Anonymous]

Our parents are similar. I don't do much video just because we don't. I do like to take pictures to remember things for myself. I spend 5 minutes each night going through the pictures, choosing about 10 or so and sharing them to our family group chat, with a short explanation if something is unclear.

My parents are demanding but also well intentioned. So, I only send pictures once a day and I mute the chat and don't answer any follow-up questions until the next evening when I do the same thing. If I started responding, my mom would have me miss my trip just responding to trivial questions. Definitely takes me out of the moment!

I don't mind my current process and it does force me to go through my pictures each day as an added bonus.

[Anonymous]

I’d spend 15 min total. You probably will take 15 min per day or more checking your email or this forum per day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d spend 15 min total. You probably will take 15 min per day or more checking your email or this forum per day.

I meant 15 min per day total.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t take much. Take 4-5 pictures and one or two 1-2 minute videos each day.

This. They don’t want see every waking moment of your trip. Just a few min a day or per activity Depending how old your kids are, everyone can participate . We all take pics/videos and upload to a share drive. It’s neat how each person captures a completely different perspectives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t take much. Take 4-5 pictures and one or two 1-2 minute videos each day.

This. They don’t want see every waking moment of your trip. Just a few min a day or per activity Depending how old your kids are, everyone can participate . We all take pics/videos and upload to a share drive. It’s neat how each person captures a completely different perspectives

+1, it's really not a big deal or a big lift. On our last family trip, we face timed our nephew for a few minutes and took a video of some wildlife. I think you're overthinking this OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s more to why this bothers you - because it seems a trivial request. Are your parents demanding? Do you feel self conscious or anxious around them? Do you have crappy memories from family trips? Something is going on.

This. I'm not a huge picture/video taker. A few here and there for ourselves but that's about it. I grew up with parents who documented everythingggggg. We have entire albums dedicated to one trip. My dad would bring his video recorder everywhere. So my mom will ask for pictures/videos constantly when we are on vacation. I'll send maybe 6 a day and am always hit with "that's it?!? Send me more!". And I just want to live in the moment and not be tied to capturing everything.

Yeah this broader context is the issue, not the request itself. I agree with a PP to send whatever you want once a day and then mute the chain. And if the criticism gets too annoying partway thru, it's fine to stop.

Not exactly the same but I've had times I shared pix with my parents of trips, my kids etc and their feedback made me wish I hadn't.