Makeup for a kindergartener

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a pretty common toy for kids this age. It's not because they "need" it. It's meant to be for dress up at home, just like dress up costumes. Does a kindergartner "need" an Elsa from Frozen costume? No, but many have them anyway for fun.

If you don't like it, get rid of it as you would any toy your child received as a gift but that you don't approve of.

But fwiw, I think it was actually beneficial for my kid to play around with make up at that age, it turned it into something fun but unnecessary for her, and she still feels that way 10 years later. She has never gotten the message that she needs to wear makeup and usually doesn't, but she and her friends sometimes have fun with it and it's very much for them not for "the male gaze" or whatever. I don't think it's essential kids play with makeup but my experience is that it doesn't harm them either.

There are very few parents who are against dress up clothes, but plenty who think makeup is inappropriate for kids.

I think those parents, like OP, are just confused. OP seems to think the makeup is for her child to wear to school or something. That's obviously not what it's for (I'm guessing if the child who gave it regularly wore makeup out of the house, op would have said so).

Are there really a lot of parents who would be afraid to let a kid put on some lipstick at home for fun? I mean who cares?

[Anonymous]

That kit would disappear and I would distract my child with safe face paint. Which is really all she wants!

My 16 year old has free rein of my extensive Dior make-up collection. What does she do with it? Paint roses on her cheeks or peacock feathers around her eyelids. It's very lovely and artistic, but it's really just elevated face paint

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a pretty common toy for kids this age. It's not because they "need" it. It's meant to be for dress up at home, just like dress up costumes. Does a kindergartner "need" an Elsa from Frozen costume? No, but many have them anyway for fun.

If you don't like it, get rid of it as you would any toy your child received as a gift but that you don't approve of.

But fwiw, I think it was actually beneficial for my kid to play around with make up at that age, it turned it into something fun but unnecessary for her, and she still feels that way 10 years later. She has never gotten the message that she needs to wear makeup and usually doesn't, but she and her friends sometimes have fun with it and it's very much for them not for "the male gaze" or whatever. I don't think it's essential kids play with makeup but my experience is that it doesn't harm them either.

There are very few parents who are against dress up clothes, but plenty who think makeup is inappropriate for kids.

I think those parents, like OP, are just confused. OP seems to think the makeup is for her child to wear to school or something. That's obviously not what it's for (I'm guessing if the child who gave it regularly wore makeup out of the house, op would have said so).

Are there really a lot of parents who would be afraid to let a kid put on some lipstick at home for fun? I mean who cares?

Yeah, I don't understand where either the DD, or the OP, is getting the idea of a 5 year old putting her face on in the morning for daily wear. A child that age would just want to fool around with it. It's fun.

[Anonymous]

She can wear it at home for dress up but tell her it’s against the rules for kids in elementary to wear makeup to school.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your daughter needs practice responding to limits. Good thing you got a gift that helped you realize and gave you opportunities to practice.

[Anonymous]

So many Karens !

Just let her be a kid and have fun with her new toy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many Karens !

Just let her be a kid and have fun with her new toy.

You would send your kid to kindergarten in makeup?

[Anonymous]

Why are American so terrified of makeup?

[Anonymous]

Let her put the makeup on you to play cosmetologist.

[Anonymous]

I dont see this as a bug deal. Kids make up is basically vaseline with food coloring and glitter. Little girls usually love to sparkle, I know mine did. Whe you make things forbidden they become more desirable then you have the opposite affect.

[Anonymous]

I got makeup from my friend as a birthday gift when I was four. And this was in the early '80s. I still remember it very clearly, the little lipstick and powders, and I enjoyed organizing and reorganizing the set. I also realized then that I didn't want stuff on my skin, and I have literally, now in my 40s, never worn makeup. This is just me, no judgment to anyone who does, but clearly that makeup kit did not encourage me to get into makeup and maybe even had the opposite effect.

[Anonymous]

OP, my daughter is similar. At 6 she discovered my makeup at home (I rarely wear makeup and only have a few items), and she wanted to wear my lipstick and eyeshadow -- to school, not at home, and as makeup, not as artistic face paint or whatever. Obviously I said no but it became such an issue that I eventually got her her own Burt's Bees slightly tinted lip gloss so she could "wear makeup." Now it's something we don't have to fight about, because I don't mind her having slightly glossy lip balm on. She also wanted nail polish to wear on her birthday, and I got her a very subdued slightly sparkly nude shade for her nails, which she loved. I think if someone had gotten her a makeup kit, I probably would have thrown it away, but I wasn't prepared to throw away my makeup, so we figured out this compromise and it works for us.

[Anonymous]

Most women need a light and tasteful application of quality makeup.

Why shouldn’t girls learn this when they are growing up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women need a light and tasteful application of quality makeup.

Why shouldn’t girls learn this when they are growing up?

Ugh. No one “needs” it. But I agree with others that it’s fine for her to play with it on the weekends. I also think it’s kind of a weird gift for a child that age.

[Anonymous]

We love our DD as she is. We also want our DD to be happy withself exactly how God made her. We do not want her to feel a need to put on any sort of "body paint" (such as makeup) to make herself "look good".

It is sad when people are evaluated on their looks, rather than on their character, intelligence, and accomplishments.