Tell me about the world of Hinge

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use my first and middle initial because my first name + location could lead someone to my driveway pretty easily. I give them my real name after I know who they are (usually ask for last name and check out linkedin profile or something). Good men are totally understanding about it - it’s smart to take precautions. One guy who I thought I really liked made some comment about whether I was a Nigerian banker and I blocked him.

You blocked someone for making a joke? Something seems to be missing here.

No, I blocked him for being unwilling to acknowledge that the world is less safe for women. We had chatted enough that it should have been clear I wasn’t a scammer (and also my pix are pretty real - I’m cute and fit for a late 40s woman but they dont look like a brazilian supermodel).

I was chatting at the same time with another guy and said the same thing (basically, my first name is unique enough that you could find my house with that plus my location, so I’ll share it once I know who you are). He immediately gave me his last name and told me to check linkedin, which matched with what he had on Hinge (photo, location and job). We’ve been dating a year. Several other men I went on first dates with also said things like “I get it, sorry you have to deal with that, here’s my last name.”. I’m not asking for SS#s, I’m not even doing a background check (although some women do and I dont fault them for it) - its a little thing and if they aren’t smart enough to tell that 1) I’m not a scammer and 2) its not too much to ask, I dont want to date them. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

PP, I still think that his comment about a Nigerian banker was a joke, and your sense of humor or lack of it showed that you weren’t a good match for each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, I still think that his comment about a Nigerian banker was a joke, and your sense of humor or lack of it showed that you weren’t a good match for each other.

If he had said that and then said “just kidding, my last name is jones,” maybe. I shouldn’t have had to ask for his last name twice when we were actively planning a coffee date. Anyway his name was Dave and he was in the medical field. Feel free to date him. I’m quite happy with my guy who passed this test with flying colors and is also hilarious. (And happens to have a teenage daughter, which might not be a coincidence).