What's with people letting you know how busy they are every single conversation?

[Anonymous]

So how is everyone around getting time for overseas trip.

[Anonymous]

An excuse to avoid invites or
to appear important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very busy social life. My entire April, May and part of June is already booked. First it was only the Saturdays. Now all the Fridays and Sundays are gone too.

I have to do all the necessary prep for this -
- Gifts and cards
- Clothes for each occasion and accessories (Yes, some of these are fancy stuff and we will be in photographs). Not only for me but also my DH because he will be too lazy otherwise.
- Hostess gifts and wrapping it. Flowers for performances.
- Haircuts, hair color, nails done.
- Finishing all the weekend chores during the week so that we are free on the weekends.
- Graduation preparations.

Bless the stress.

This is the funniest thing I've read here in a long long time. Bless your heart, self-important SAHM lady.

[Anonymous]

So, there are three kinds of people:
1) People who are busy or keep themselves busy (sometimes at real things, sometimes at trivial things, see "I have a busy social life" poster above) who constantly talk about how busy they are bc it feels validating & they think having no time makes them seem important. This is partly a geographical thing -- New Yorkers are the most like this. See (2) below.
2) People who are busy, but pretend they are super calm, relaxed, and not working hard. This is largely a west-of-the-Mississippi flex. In that area, being stressed out and over-scheduled/ "too busy" is not a status symbol, rather the reverse. These people pretend to be chill. They are not.
3) People who are intense, successful, and busy, but wear it lightly. These people accomplish a lot while prioritizing being humble and relatable. These are my favorite people. Most of my friends are in this category. These people have succeeded on the highest level in extremely competitive fields but do not feel the need to talk about it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, there are three kinds of people:
1) People who are busy or keep themselves busy (sometimes at real things, sometimes at trivial things, see "I have a busy social life" poster above) who constantly talk about how busy they are bc it feels validating & they think having no time makes them seem important. This is partly a geographical thing -- New Yorkers are the most like this. See (2) below.
2) People who are busy, but pretend they are super calm, relaxed, and not working hard. This is largely a west-of-the-Mississippi flex. In that area, being stressed out and over-scheduled/ "too busy" is not a status symbol, rather the reverse. These people pretend to be chill. They are not.
3) People who are intense, successful, and busy, but wear it lightly. These people accomplish a lot while prioritizing being humble and relatable. These are my favorite people. Most of my friends are in this category. These people have succeeded on the highest level in extremely competitive fields but do not feel the need to talk about it all the time.

You're describing people who understand it's not socially appropriate to make a big deal about their success or level of ambition. But you have no idea if they're actually humble or just faking it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a very busy social life. My entire April, May and part of June is already booked. First it was only the Saturdays. Now all the Fridays and Sundays are gone too.

I have to do all the necessary prep for this -
- Gifts and cards
- Clothes for each occasion and accessories (Yes, some of these are fancy stuff and we will be in photographs). Not only for me but also my DH because he will be too lazy otherwise.
- Hostess gifts and wrapping it. Flowers for performances.
- Haircuts, hair color, nails done.
- Finishing all the weekend chores during the week so that we are free on the weekends.
- Graduation preparations.

Bless the stress.

This is the funniest thing I've read here in a long long time. Bless your heart, self-important SAHM lady.

I think it’s a SAHW lady. I don’t see mention of kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, there are three kinds of people:
1) People who are busy or keep themselves busy (sometimes at real things, sometimes at trivial things, see "I have a busy social life" poster above) who constantly talk about how busy they are bc it feels validating & they think having no time makes them seem important. This is partly a geographical thing -- New Yorkers are the most like this. See (2) below.
2) People who are busy, but pretend they are super calm, relaxed, and not working hard. This is largely a west-of-the-Mississippi flex. In that area, being stressed out and over-scheduled/ "too busy" is not a status symbol, rather the reverse. These people pretend to be chill. They are not.
3) People who are intense, successful, and busy, but wear it lightly. These people accomplish a lot while prioritizing being humble and relatable. These are my favorite people. Most of my friends are in this category. These people have succeeded on the highest level in extremely competitive fields but do not feel the need to talk about it all the time.

You're describing people who understand it's not socially appropriate to make a big deal about their success or level of ambition. But you have no idea if they're actually humble or just faking it for you.

I do know, because these are my closest friends whom I have known for decades. It is part of the reason we are freinds.

[Anonymous]

They are so busy that they browse social media, post pics on fb/ instagram, watch the news/ tv shows on their iPhones.

They are not interested in having conversations with you.

The best you can do is just ignoring them for a while. Keep yourself occupied with your hobbies and people who cares about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are so busy that they browse social media, post pics on fb/ instagram, watch the news/ tv shows on their iPhones.

They are not interested in having conversations with you.

The best you can do is just ignoring them for a while. Keep yourself occupied with your hobbies and people who cares about you.

+1000 the people I know like this are addicted to their cell phones and social media. That's not being busy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. We're all busy but why the need to be like "I only have 10 minutes a day to do this!" "I'll never catch up," "Work is so busy I have no down time," "I have no time to watch my tv shows," It's so old. I'm not even believing it anymore because if you were that busy you wouldn't have all that time to complain about it, especially when no one even asked!

What on earth are you talking about. People call you to tell you they are busy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, there are three kinds of people:
1) People who are busy or keep themselves busy (sometimes at real things, sometimes at trivial things, see "I have a busy social life" poster above) who constantly talk about how busy they are bc it feels validating & they think having no time makes them seem important. This is partly a geographical thing -- New Yorkers are the most like this. See (2) below.
2) People who are busy, but pretend they are super calm, relaxed, and not working hard. This is largely a west-of-the-Mississippi flex. In that area, being stressed out and over-scheduled/ "too busy" is not a status symbol, rather the reverse. These people pretend to be chill. They are not.
3) People who are intense, successful, and busy, but wear it lightly. These people accomplish a lot while prioritizing being humble and relatable. These are my favorite people. Most of my friends are in this category. These people have succeeded on the highest level in extremely competitive fields but do not feel the need to talk about it all the time.

You're describing people who understand it's not socially appropriate to make a big deal about their success or level of ambition. But you have no idea if they're actually humble or just faking it for you.

I do know, because these are my closest friends whom I have known for decades. It is part of the reason we are freinds.

If you convey that you don't find ambition or making a big deal out of your success acceptable, people who want to be your friend are less likely to do it around you. And that's a good skill, I'm not saying they should brag more, but it's a flex as much as either of the other two.