Parenting Coordinator

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A therapist might be a better option, to help the parents accept their kids’ choices.

Kids should not choose or be put in the middle. They need both parents.

The reality of teens' group work for school, sports, volunteering, and work often means that 50/50 won't work. That's precisely why I recommended a mediator who would understand that teens' schedules shift and they might not be *able* to make 50/50 work, and even if they do? They do have a choice in whether they will be in their rooms, out with friends, at activities, or socializing with their parents.

100% agree with this
Kids don’t want to keep moving a week at a time. They didn’t choose this. Let them have some say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A therapist might be a better option, to help the parents accept their kids’ choices.

Kids should not choose or be put in the middle. They need both parents.

The reality of teens' group work for school, sports, volunteering, and work often means that 50/50 won't work. That's precisely why I recommended a mediator who would understand that teens' schedules shift and they might not be *able* to make 50/50 work, and even if they do? They do have a choice in whether they will be in their rooms, out with friends, at activities, or socializing with their parents.

Of course it will work. You do a week on, week off. Or, half a week at each house. What you are really asking is how do I get full custody as I'm trying to justify and rationalize it?

That's IF both parents live close enough to school to drive them to/from school, sports, piano lessons, blah blah. Many parents don't have 2 parents who live real close by, so that's when 50/50 doesn't work. AND both parents then need to have a bedroom for their children - not just have them use the pullout couch in the livingroom on their week. it could be a shared bedroom if the kids are same gender.

Having their own bedroom may be a luxury. Ideally both have bedrooms for the kids but if one cannot afford it they should not be punished and lose their kids.

Forcing a kid to spend half their lives on a pull out couch is a good way to lose a relationship with one's kids. Better to respect that they had no say in your marriage or divorce and that you can be in their lives without making them move back and forth.