Cornell or Wellesley

[Anonymous]

Do kids at Cornell date nowadays? What percentage of kids have a bf/gf relationship? 20%? Does the relationship last long?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley is a lovely campus, but as a straight 18 year old girl eager to meet boys, nothing would have convinced me to go to an all-women's college.

Then you should not have applied. They had a whole bunch of required essays, you didn’t slip and push the apply button by accident. Only a discontented person would say they could outgrow a college after just 4 years - must be a very boring person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley is a lovely campus, but as a straight 18 year old girl eager to meet boys, nothing would have convinced me to go to an all-women's college.

Then you should not have applied. They had a whole bunch of required essays, you didn’t slip and push the apply button by accident. Only a discontented person would say they could outgrow a college after just 4 years - must be a very boring person.

I don’t think that’s OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do kids at Cornell date nowadays? What percentage of kids have a bf/gf relationship? 20%? Does the relationship last long?

DD had a long term relationship at Cornell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many may question how is it possible to have a pair that are so different. We actually met a few families with similar options on our admitted students days. So they attract kids in different ways.

SLACs take care of the kids very well. Small classes, close relationships with the professors, flexible curriculum. Cornell obviously has much larger class sizes, particularly for intro courses. Kids probably don’t have as much interactions with the professors.

The drawback of SLACs is that they are very small. Kids may outgrow it in two years. There are research opportunities but not comparable to R1 research universities.

Has anyone faced a similar situation before? How did your DC make the decision? The question is not directly related to specific major or career paths but I guess it could be. My understanding is both schools have outstanding outcomes.

My kids final 3 were UMD, WM and BU. Like all three and completely different. Decision DID come down to academic program (CS) and chose UMD.

[Anonymous]

DD was a recruited athlete at Wellesley a couple years ago but chose Cornell instead as a regular student. The campus at Wellesley is beautiful but felt too small. She wanted to go to a large co-ed school. Cornell is a very large school similar to a state U but with Ivy league academics. She loves it so far, joined a sorority and has an internship secured for this summer.

[Anonymous]

They are so different. I would chose Cornell over Wellesley for most kids.

[Anonymous]

My lesbian daughter loves Cornell! Her girlfriend is very pretty.

And she loves her professors. She’s so impressed with the quality of teaching.

As another poster said, it’s all about fit. Both schools are outstanding. OP’s kid will do well no matter what school she attends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it OP glossed over a women’s college vs co-ed?

Just admit you were prestige hunting and here is where you landed.

These two have more in common than they are different. Cornell is the first co-ed ivy, produced RBG. Wellesley is a member of seven sisters. I am not surprised at all a girl would be interested in these two schools at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley is a lovely campus, but as a straight 18 year old girl eager to meet boys, nothing would have convinced me to go to an all-women's college.

Time has changed. For all young women their first priority should be their career. - A dad

Why mention you're a dad? Is a man's opinion more important here?

[Anonymous]

And why do discussions about women's colleges always devolve into a discussion about relationships and boys? Wellesley students meet students all around the Boston area. Many meet partners in grad school and on their first jobs. Some stay single. But there are plenty of single women who graduate from coed schools too. Please help your DDs think broadly with an open mind when they choose their college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

For all young women their first priority should be their career. - A dad

Happy young women need sex, Dad.
Better it's not a one night stand. If they aren't around young men as friends, a one night stand is more likely

There are other options at Wellesley.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And why do discussions about women's colleges always devolve into a discussion about relationships and boys? Wellesley students meet students all around the Boston area. Many meet partners in grad school and on their first jobs. Some stay single. But there are plenty of single women who graduate from coed schools too. Please help your DDs think broadly with an open mind when they choose their college.

+100 DCUM always showing its misogyny.

[Anonymous]

As much as I liked the idea of Wellesley, it wasn't the right fit for my straight daughter. Yes, academics/alum network is strong. But my kid wanted a full college experience with strong academics, networking, dating, potential for greek life, etc. Similar to other all female schools, W attracts a disproportionate # of non straight young women. Yes, W students can take classes at MIT and meet guys in boston, but why choose a a school where u need a shuttle bus if you have another option? My kid chose Penn over W.. So far, so good! She is very happy with the limitless a academic options, her profs, and vibrant social life. Lots of successful networking with upperclassmen and and alums, many of whom are male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley is a lovely campus, but as a straight 18 year old girl eager to meet boys, nothing would have convinced me to go to an all-women's college.

Time has changed. For all young women their first priority should be their career. - A dad

I went to Wellesley. It can be the best of both worlds, empowering women-only environment during the week and lots of opportunities to meet students at nearby schools on the weekends. The partying -- and this is a positive -- is generally off campus, so the dorms are pretty zen at Wellesley on weekends.