Would you drop off or hang around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay. There are always errands that can be done - gas station, drug store, hardware store and online chores - making doc appts, online shopping, updating school documents. The driving time is wasted.

This, stay and find something to do even if its just like shopping or errands like car wash, gas the car up. If you run out of things to do read. But you should be able to find things to do or even a park to go for an hour walk on.

[Anonymous]

Also update us op on what you ended up doing and how you spent the time if you stayed!

[Anonymous]

When my son had something similar, I found a pool that allowed visitors nearby, swam laps, and then went for a leisurely lunch. There was also a library near by so sometimes I read or did work. But it sounds like there might not be a lot around the destination.

[Anonymous]

Hang around. What to do?
Take your laptop and do work, pay bills, online shopping, catch up with friends. Go for a walk, get coffee or lunch, take a nap in the car. We did not drop off our kids anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid used to have a 3 hour practice that was an hour away. One thing I would do is pack coolers and use the time to go grocery shopping. Or I'd find space and get work done.

Good idea on bringing coolers and ice packs for grocery shopping! I’d probably get some work done for a few hours, then grocery shop and get something to eat for myself while I’m at the store.

[Anonymous]

I'd stay, bring my laptop, and sit happily at a coffee shop. I would also order groceries and have them delivered.

[Anonymous]

Sorry. We always stay and hang around. Yes, we find things to do etc, but there is no way we would leave our kids anywhere (except school).

[Anonymous]

I treat USA as the worst place to be a parent. Too many sexual predators around. Epstein files prove it. So, I am super vigilant about where my kids are (even when they were in HS) and who they hang out with etc.

No. I do not trust other parents, my neighbors, caregivers, any handyman who comes to my house, any coaches or any teachers etc. I will give a ride to other people's children, but my kids do not go with other adults except my DH, my parents, my brothers and my DH's sister. (My ILs are elderly, forgetful and careless.). I have personally seen many parents who are neglectful at best and dangerous at best when they are around other people's children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. We always stay and hang around. Yes, we find things to do etc, but there is no way we would leave our kids anywhere (except school).

Recused? Were they on jury duty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I treat USA as the worst place to be a parent. Too many sexual predators around. Epstein files prove it. So, I am super vigilant about where my kids are (even when they were in HS) and who they hang out with etc.

No. I do not trust other parents, my neighbors, caregivers, any handyman who comes to my house, any coaches or any teachers etc. I will give a ride to other people's children, but my kids do not go with other adults except my DH, my parents, my brothers and my DH's sister. (My ILs are elderly, forgetful and careless.). I have personally seen many parents who are neglectful at best and dangerous at best when they are around other people's children.

Hey, I get what you mean about other people being irresponsible. But I mean this with kindness. You should talk with a mental health professional if you're this wary about leaving mentally competent children (high schoolers?!) in the hands of other adults, particularly activities where adults are not allowed to be 1:1 with a child. For your sake and more importantly, your children's sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hang around. What to do?
Take your laptop and do work, pay bills, online shopping, catch up with friends. Go for a walk, get coffee or lunch, take a nap in the car. We did not drop off our kids anywhere.

This does not take remotely 4 hours. I don’t sign my kids up for stuff an hour away. 30 minutes max.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hang around. What to do?
Take your laptop and do work, pay bills, online shopping, catch up with friends. Go for a walk, get coffee or lunch, take a nap in the car. We did not drop off our kids anywhere.

This does not take remotely 4 hours. I don’t sign my kids up for stuff an hour away. 30 minutes max.

I can easily spend 4 hours on just the first task, working on my laptop. I would think how much time you can spend on many of these activities would depend on the specifics of your situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I treat USA as the worst place to be a parent. Too many sexual predators around. Epstein files prove it. So, I am super vigilant about where my kids are (even when they were in HS) and who they hang out with etc.

No. I do not trust other parents, my neighbors, caregivers, any handyman who comes to my house, any coaches or any teachers etc. I will give a ride to other people's children, but my kids do not go with other adults except my DH, my parents, my brothers and my DH's sister. (My ILs are elderly, forgetful and careless.). I have personally seen many parents who are neglectful at best and dangerous at best when they are around other people's children.

I hope you are teaching your kids some independent life skills. Your level of angst may be giving them anxiety and make them codependent.

I understand being a protective parent but I’m not sure why you think the US is the only place where people prey on children.

[Anonymous]

You would save TWO HOURS of driving if you hung around. Surely there are plenty of things you could do from a coffee shop or your car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. We always stay and hang around. Yes, we find things to do etc, but there is no way we would leave our kids anywhere (except school).

How old are your kids?