48 hours to accept offer

[Anonymous]

Call coaches from other clubs. Let them know that you've received an offer but you'd like to know if they have any interest before saying yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this real? Not, like, a week or two? Does anyone actually answer within 48?

You can just ask for more time.

[Anonymous]

i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Agreed. Be transparent and remember that it isn’t just you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

Or it could be that your kid doesn't work as hard and my kid has to share the field with them...talk about unfair!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

fortunately, my kid already has her offer in hand, and has accepted. but no - not thinking about you while my kid trains more than mmost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

I don’t know whether your kids trains as much is no more. I don’t judge a family for how they want to make decisions. You did calling it selfish.

Just start calling yourself Karen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

I don’t know whether your kids trains as much is no more. I don’t judge a family for how they want to make decisions. You did calling it selfish.

Just start calling yourself Karen.

Nail meet head!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Crazy for you to think the kid isn’t training as much as yours. It could be a position thing.

I don’t know whether your kids trains as much is no more. I don’t judge a family for how they want to make decisions. You did calling it selfish.

Just start calling yourself Karen.

This doesn’t even make sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Nobody’s saying families shouldn’t take time to make a decision they worked hard for. That’s fair. Big choices deserve real thought.

But there’s also a human side to this. When a club is waiting on an answer, there’s usually another kid and another family waiting too. Not just for “a spot,” but for clarity. For planning. For peace of mind. For knowing where they stand.

It’s not about rushing anyone. It’s about remembering that these decisions ripple out. Just like you want space to think about what’s best for your child, someone else is hoping for a timely answer so they can do what’s best for theirs.

Empathy goes both directions. Taking time is reasonable. Being mindful that others are affected is reasonable too.

At the end of the day, we’re all just parents trying to do right by our kids. A little consideration for each other doesn’t cost much, and it goes a long way. It's also possible the reason your kid got the offer first is a small one and the club doesn't want to risk losing their backup option, hence the 24 or 48 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

Nobody’s saying families shouldn’t take time to make a decision they worked hard for. That’s fair. Big choices deserve real thought.

But there’s also a human side to this. When a club is waiting on an answer, there’s usually another kid and another family waiting too. Not just for “a spot,” but for clarity. For planning. For peace of mind. For knowing where they stand.

It’s not about rushing anyone. It’s about remembering that these decisions ripple out. Just like you want space to think about what’s best for your child, someone else is hoping for a timely answer so they can do what’s best for theirs.

Empathy goes both directions. Taking time is reasonable. Being mindful that others are affected is reasonable too.

At the end of the day, we’re all just parents trying to do right by our kids. A little consideration for each other doesn’t cost much, and it goes a long way. It's also possible the reason your kid got the offer first is a small one and the club doesn't want to risk losing their backup option, hence the 24 or 48 hours.

💯

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i know people like to only think about themselves but the club you want to string along is likely the club of another kids' dream and you stinging them along prevents them moving along to the kids on the bubble who actually want to be there. I get it if you have more than one good option and need time to mull it over, but doubt that is everyone's situation. stop being selfish.

Interesting. So we should rush our decision that we earned so that you possibly have a spot that you did not earn? And we should rush our decision to think about you?

Are you thinking about us when your kid is playing video games or sleeping in when my kid is training? 🤦‍♂️

DP. Here is a reality you may not be considering. The difference between your kid and the next one on the list may in fact be quite small. The club may have no problem moving on to the next kid. They may not be hanging on your decision the way you apparently think they are. Do not inflate your kid’s importance in this situation.

I work in academia. When a position is advertised, 100 or more very strong applicants send in their materials. From there, smaller pool is selected for phone interviews and then an even smaller pool for in person interviews. By the time you get to that stage all of the candidates are truly outstanding. But only one can get the offer and you have to decide the order in which you will offer if the first choice turns it down. Barring a true superstar applying, the differences that lead to the final ranking are often SO small. It can be an agonizing wait for the second, third, etc candidates while the first candidate drags their feet. And in reality, the university would be happy to have any of them in the position.

Your kid is much more likely to be just a bit better than the next one on the list, not head and shoulders better. Keep your kid humble and don’t let them walk around acting like they’re the top draft pick.

Always disliked lecturing teachers, guess I still do. Go talk down to your students instead.