Pets, housing, visitation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he really want 50% custody?
If he lives close by can’t they go to him every other weekend and he see them during the week for dinners/activities etc without having to sleep there? I know your post isn’t really about custody but if your kids are older I feel like they should have some say.
I agree with PPs that the pets stay in one house.

Why should he take every other weekend which is four days a month then mom will be screaming kids miss friends and he gets no time. Yes, he probably wants it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. If the pets are yours they don’t need to go back and forth. Offer to pick up the kids on his day for 30 minutes with you providing transportation or bring the pets to the kids a few minutes a day to a local park or something. If you don’t want him to see the kids ever again, just say that and don’t play games. He is your ex. You cannot control his life anymore not can he control yours. But for the kids best interests you should work with him.

Dogs are his. Were his? He’s “not a dog person anymore”.

Thank you all for your thoughtful advice here. Going to move on from this because I can see that’s the only choice I have.

If neither of you want the dogs, redone them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he really want 50% custody?
If he lives close by can’t they go to him every other weekend and he see them during the week for dinners/activities etc without having to sleep there? I know your post isn’t really about custody but if your kids are older I feel like they should have some say.
I agree with PPs that the pets stay in one house.

He says he wants 50% but doesn’t everyone?

Kids are 9, 11, 13. I think they should have a say but in my jurisdiction it depends on the judge and it is not common so it is what it is.

Kids will go with the parent who brainwashes them. Don’t put them in the situation to choose between parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he really want 50% custody?
If he lives close by can’t they go to him every other weekend and he see them during the week for dinners/activities etc without having to sleep there? I know your post isn’t really about custody but if your kids are older I feel like they should have some say.
I agree with PPs that the pets stay in one house.

He says he wants 50% but doesn’t everyone?

Kids are 9, 11, 13. I think they should have a say but in my jurisdiction it depends on the judge and it is not common so it is what it is.

No, there are plenty of parents who use divorce as a way to remove themselves from the responsibilities of parenting. The fact that he has what sounds like is a nice place for the kids to be, and wants to have the kids there, is a very good thing. Instead of worrying about pets grieving that their kids are gone some of the time, you could easily be dealing with kids grieving the loss of a parent all of the time.