Weddings when you just know the couple is going to divorce?

[Anonymous]

I went to a wedding like that about a dozen years ago. Reasons were different, but I thought they had no chance. Sat through the wedding, whatever.

12 years later, they’re still together, have both “grown up,” they’ve grown together, and at least appear to have a strong marriage.

You just don’t know, man. These things are impossible to predict.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is very talented, beautiful, accomplished and divorced. She picks extremely inappropriate men who treat her like shit and so then she breaks off with them. Any decent person - she does not want. The most mentally disturbed and poor that person is, she goes for them. It is heartbreaking to see that. I keep trying to steer her towards therapists but she does what she wants to. She is beyond help. My relationship with her can only survive if I ignore her romantic relationship woes. I think she was abused as a kid and she likes to be in abusive relationships.

She is very nice to me. But, now I wonder if these are appeasement strategies so that she does not lose me.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend like this, except I didn't go to the wedding - they eloped. Several months later I saw her wearing a wedding ring and asked "is that what I think it is?" None of us thought it was a good idea but we couldn't say the quiet part out loud. They split up after a couple years.

[Anonymous]

OP I went thru this with a close friend who married a serial cheater (happened while they were dating). We had a real conversation about it.

They got married. I was in the wedding party. It was very hard for me as I had been cheated on but ended my relationship. That said, I smiled and did my part at the wedding. It wasn't the time for anything else. I will still be here if she wants to talk someday. I wish her the best in the meantime.

I guess for the day-of, alcohol helps??

[Anonymous]

My brother
My mothers best friend
My parents
My aunt and uncle none should have been marrying each other ever

[Anonymous]

Weddings are fun - go have fun! I've yet attended a wedding and someone got divorced. Even when I was very, very sure it would happen.

[Anonymous]

If this friendship means a lot to you then unfortunately all you can do at this time is support her marriage.

You do not have to like it - - but it IS your friend’s life choice & there is nothing that you can really do at this point anyway.

If her marriage really bothers you, then it may mean something if you decide to take a step backward for awhile and see how things go.

Good luck 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

Yeah I didn’t attend a friend’s second marriage because she called me while they were dating and told me she thought he was gay. I’m assuming he is gay, based on my interactions with him and everything she told me about him. She married him and they had a couple of kids. Her first marriage only lasted 3 weeks.