I’m pissed at my teen for a myriad of reasons, but mostly, right now

[Anonymous]

Lady, just announce to your child that she can’t have anyone over on X or Y days of the week. Set some rules.

That said, be happy she has friends. And if they’re at your house, you’re getting to see them and size them up as to if they’re good kids.

Before you know it you’ll be an empty nester. Take the long view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the fact her friends are here all the freaking time!

Last Saturday she went on a double date and she came back and brought 4 friends with her.

I specifically told her I wanted them to leave early because of the incoming snow storm.

Lo and behold, besides one girl, they stayed until 1:30am “waiting for a ride.” And my husband ended up having to drive one girl to her home.

Sunday, around 6pm one of those friends came back and slept over, leaving yesterday around 10am.

Today, there are 2 (soon to be 3) friends here, studying.

I HATE this! I want to enjoy my house and walk around in my ragged pjs without worrying about teens.

And what kind of parents just let their kids stay out in someone’s house until late like this without picking them up?? I can’t in good conscience make them leave, at night time, in the winter, just before a snowstorm.

I told her today they have to be out by 7pm. I’m tired of driving these kids around, or making my husband do it - don’t they have parents????

Stop blaming the other parents and tell your child no. The child who needed a ride - tell her call her parents. If they show up, you ask them to leave. They come to your house as there is no discipline or consequences.

[Anonymous]

You and Mr Husband need to lay down the rules for guests .. and remind her and enforce them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful
she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

Well it doesn’t end in college. DS now brings home friends from college. We are only two hours by train. The international kids came for Thanksgiving. East coast, Bay Area and SoCal kids came for MLK weekend. Not sure who will end up here Presidents Day weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful
she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

Well it doesn’t end in college. DS now brings home friends from college. We are only two hours by train. The international kids came for Thanksgiving. East coast, Bay Area and SoCal kids came for MLK weekend. Not sure who will end up here Presidents Day weekend.

Well better with you than not? I hope my kids bring friends home from school too.

[Anonymous]

You know those kids swore up and down to their parents that their friend's parents are cool and totally don't mind them staying at your house through the snowstorm, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful
she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

Well it doesn’t end in college. DS now brings home friends from college. We are only two hours by train. The international kids came for Thanksgiving. East coast, Bay Area and SoCal kids came for MLK weekend. Not sure who will end up here Presidents Day weekend.

Are you me? I could have written this. We are The House. I don’t mind it. I get a kick out of the kids and I love talking to them. Do I wish they were neater? Sure. But I’m ultimately glad they want to be around here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This time in your life is short. My DD just had 3 friends here for 3 nights. They made great memories. Yes it was annoying I couldn't wear my regular PJs and slum it on the couch/fall asleep there but it was a few days.

I’m usually pretty laid back about her friends coming over, but right now I am feeling being take advantage of. It feels she only comes to me half sweet when she needs something.

Her grades are not that great because of slacking off this semester, she does her chores after pulling teeth, and only half assed because the princess doesn’t like, is “disgusted” by washing dishes or loading the dishwasher, or cleaning g the stove.

And then there is the snow shoveling, cleaning up. Her 11y old sister help more than the little princess.

This makes me so sad. Look at how you're speaking about your CHILD. Guarantee in the future you'll be complaining about your daughter cutting you out of her life and you'll be COMPLETELY SHOCKED and have no idea why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The correct usage is never “a myriad of,” it is simply “myriad reasons.”

Thank you. Adjective, not verb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful
she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

Well it doesn’t end in college. DS now brings home friends from college. We are only two hours by train. The international kids came for Thanksgiving. East coast, Bay Area and SoCal kids came for MLK weekend. Not sure who will end up here Presidents Day weekend.

Are you me? I could have written this. We are The House. I don’t mind it. I get a kick out of the kids and I love talking to them. Do I wish they were neater? Sure. But I’m ultimately glad they want to be around here.

Yes, there are posts on here all the time wondering how you get to be The Hangout House!

[Anonymous]

I would much rather be the house where the kids hang out than not see my kid for days, but you do you.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get this, OP. Our son is 17 and a senior, and his group of friends is over all the time. We love that we know them so well and we always make them feel welcome. I will miss them all next year when they go to college.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad that my kid and her bestie generally have to hang out at bestie's house because she's allergic to our cat. She's a sweet girl and a good houseguest.

[Anonymous]

She and her friends could be getting wasted, experiementing with drugs, and hooking up every weekend at other people's houses, like many of her classmates.

Be grateful for your blessings of a teen and her friends who want to hang out at your home instead of the houses owned by the permissive party with the kids parents.

[Anonymous]

This is so strange to me. You don’t know how to set rules or say no it seems. This would NEVER happen at our house.