Anyone having their teen’s grad party at their country club?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am having this same conversation with my DD right now. I said no.

First, it is going to be almost as expensive as a wedding reception. (We belong to an expensive club)

Two, people come and go and you will have no idea when people will show up or how many. It could be huge, unless you are going to be very very exclusive or it could be a total bust.

I am a little sad we can't have a party for her. Our home has no good parking and people would never go for a shuttle bus from the nearby park. Last year I wen't to a friends party and she really encouraged ubers, but there were still more than a hundred cars in her neighborhood.

She is going to explore having a party with someone else. This is becoming very common. They are fun, you can splurge on things like a band, and helps with the issue of conflicting parties.

Good luck.

Definitely look into a joint party with other families! We did this and it seemed like most of the other parties DS went to this past spring when he graduated were similar. You share the cost, share the logistics, and I think the whole thing ends up having a “more than merrier“feel. We also didn’t have a house or yards that would have worked for something like this, were grateful to co- plan with a family that did. It doesn’t have to be a fancy blowout - ours was kind of a late afternoon /early eve backyard picnic with food from a BBQ place, kids played lawn games etc, it was just really nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting a grad party at all? Each senior has their own party? Why individual parties? Arent the school grad events sufficient? And, yes, the teens are t going to stay - they are going to move on to the next party where they can drink more freely. You’re going to have a lot of no-shows.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my graduation party at the country club a hundred years ago. More recently, DD had her graduation party there, too. What’s the problem? Both parties, decades apart, were great, with lasting memories.

Are you talking about just family and a few friends? That is not what OP is talking about.

A few family members. Mostly friends, about 20. In both instances. Daytime events. The kids weren’t interested in drinking.

[Anonymous]

We’re a country club family but my kid and his friends would think a grad party at a country club is lame. It’s just not the right vibe for high schoolers.

[Anonymous]

The last hs grad party I went to, the kids were playing beer pong in the yard college style. I was pretty surprised as I only have a middle schooler, but I seemed to be perfectly normal and they are all loving their frat houses in college now.

[Anonymous]

What’s the big deal? Sounds like money isn’t an issue. Have the party there, enjoy, stimulate the economy, the wedding will be even grander which is great. Yes, kid #2 should get a similar size party.

Why is DCUM so anti-party in general?
Better way to spend your money than an expensive purse or other material goods. Party, socialize with friends, it’s fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the big deal? Sounds like money isn’t an issue. Have the party there, enjoy, stimulate the economy, the wedding will be even grander which is great. Yes, kid #2 should get a similar size party.

Why is DCUM so anti-party in general?
Better way to spend your money than an expensive purse or other material goods. Party, socialize with friends, it’s fun.

No one is being “anti-party”. Experienced parents are simply pointing out that a country club party for a single grad is going to be “lame” with a lot of no-shows and drop ins- would you want your senior to remember their grad party as being a failure?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do this. Kids want to hang on their own not be at a CC. unless it’s mostly for you and you friends of course

[Anonymous]

Joint parties are better. But be aware, teens don’t want to stay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the big deal? Sounds like money isn’t an issue. Have the party there, enjoy, stimulate the economy, the wedding will be even grander which is great. Yes, kid #2 should get a similar size party.

Why is DCUM so anti-party in general?
Better way to spend your money than an expensive purse or other material goods. Party, socialize with friends, it’s fun.

Oh what in the world could go wrong.....

This is such a dumb idea.

[Anonymous]

No teenager wants to go to a prissy country club graduation party to celebrate their one rich friend who accomplished the exact same thing they did -- graduating from high school.

[Anonymous]

No but my teen works at a CC. He's worked at these grad parties and for all of the money they are spending, they could afford to tip the workers.

[Anonymous]

The good news is that if it’s in June, they’re probably already booked for weddings so this will be a non-conversation.