go away, raising three kids is a job that has allowed her spouse to focus on work and become high earning |
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OP who pays the bills? Mortgage, credit cards, etc. Utilities?
If you do, you have a start. Do you have your own credit cards in you name only. Maybe from before when you were working? Start using them for small things and paying the bills for those to get your credit active again. |
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No, it’s actually not a bad idea. Especially if she had a big job before. |
| This may be unpopular, but what about just talking to your husband? Articulating your desire to be more well informed and participatory? I feel like his response will be indicative of whether you should worry. Regardless, you need to be more informed. But I can’t imagine being married and having to essentially dig into our family finances on the sly. Seems antithetical to lifetime partnership. |
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You & OP need a job. |
I am the pp and I have three kids and have had a two income household since my youngest started preschool over 15 years ago. However I am not a myopic black and white thinker who resorts to insults online rather than offering support and advice. Even though my situation is different, of course I can see how having a stay at home parent benefits many families and likely allowed the DH in this scenario to focus more on work and get ahead in that arena. And, I offered a bunch of tips above on where to start with financial literacy rather than just slamming op. |
| OP, you need to understand your tax return. Know what every account is. Know how it is titled. Which are joint, and if not, why not. You need to know cash flow and how money is spent, even if each of you benefit from a large discretionary category. |