| Depends on the school. In middle school it annoyed the teachers and my DS always felt bad, and inconvenienced himself to make it happen (skipped lunch, for example). His private high school is the total opposite. I think it’s because enough kids have the accommodation that they build it in and are very used to it. DS has never had a problem, never had to miss lunch, tests have it built in all the time. They don’t provide the accommodation for homework or projects, just in class tests. |
Teacher here who isn’t annoyed by students and accommodations. I proactively plan for these accommodations every day. I AM annoyed when I meet with a parent who doesn’t want to partner with the school. I am happy to do the extra work to help a child, but I wish some parents could simply be reasonable humans. (I’m guessing the PP here is a great example of a challenging parent.) |
| Aww, your kid is so sweet & probably rejection sensitive. Mine is too but guess what, it doesn't really matter. Tell him not to worry about it. He needs those accommodations and if their annoyed about it, that's on them. Tell him that there's plenty of other kids that have accommodations, not to be afraid & get what you deserve. |
What are examples of what a "challenging parent" might do and what do recommend for parents who don't want to be "challenging"? Please be specific with actionable advise. Thanks. |
| We found in most classes including AP, with block schedules the test is meant to be finished in a far shorter time than the length of the class then it's easy6 to give anyone and everyone extended time without paying attention to the IEP. |
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Good Lord, SO MANY KIDS HAVE EXTRA TIME. Teachers have gotten used to it, and many have developed their own systems to administer longer tests for these students.
My severely low-processing kid (autism and ADHD) had double time in high school. He still has double time in college, which is insane. He's doing his best to not use it all, because he knows workplaces might not accommodate him in that way. My other kid has a medical 504 and is allowed frequent breaks and 50% extra time, which she uses on days when she has flares from her auto-immune disease. Your kid should get over himself and advocate for his needs. It's a valuable lesson he needs to learn. |
| It will vary by the teacher. We have had a few teachers encourage us to keep fighting for a 504 after being denied as they wanted to help and were limited without it. |
| My DS in 11th has dyslexia and many of teachers are mildly annoyed at him if he’s doesn’t take his extra time. They remind him, hey, you have extra time. You should use it. |
| As a teacher, for the most part extra time isn’t viewed as annoying since it’s largely built in to testing now. But to answer the other posters question, it was annoying when some families tried to dictate when the timing. For example, I had one student who always wanted to use their time after school (staying as late as 5:00pm some day) which wouldn’t work for me because I had to pick up my own children. This student did not want to use 4th period advisory, lunch, or before school which were the options I gave. |
This is false. Just because a kid does well with accommodations, going without sleep, and stressing themselves to the max putting in tons of time and extra effort that other kids do not put in, does not mean they are not disabled. You are allowed to be disabled, receive accommodations, and succeed as a result. |
The following are some examples I can think of: Demanding extra time / additional instruction after school, well past my hours. I can’t regularly stay until 5 because I have my own special needs child to get to. Yet when I explained this, I was told I was selfish and not doing my job. Please understand our time is limited and we have many obligations, both professional and personal. Emailing 20 minutes after a test to see how the student did. I won’t even get a chance to glance at tests until the evening, so give me at least 24 hours. 48 would be better. Please be aware that things take time. I’m almost always working, nights and weekends, so I’ll get the test graded as soon as humanly possible. Regularly emailing me before a test to remind me of the student’s accommodations, even though I’ve never given any indication that I would forget. I know my job, and emailing me reminders simply adds to my workload because now I have to respond. It also makes me feel like I’m not trusted. Please know that I’m doing my best, and trust that I have your child’s best interest in mind. |
#1 and #2 sound very annoying and demanding. But #3 sounds like this parent had problems in the past with a teacher who did not provide accommodations and is trying to make sure that doesn't happen again. Are they doing it in the ideal way? No. But give them the benefit of the doubt. You say you're on top of the accommodations but how do they know that? Not all teachers are. |
Many of us try and try and get refused. Our AP was clear that they would not help, and the response has simply been because of the classes my child takes (which is illegal and inappropriate). The principal does not respond at all. I've begged many times for help. I reach out to teachers, and some respond, trying to help, while others do not respond or decline. |
You may be a good teacher who can make it all work, but many other teachers are not. |
When I’ve handled accommodations appropriately and consistently for two quarters, the reminders before every task can stop. Trust me to do my job. |