SSRIs in OLD: should it be mandatory to disclose?

[Anonymous]

Medical issues - mental or physical should be disclosed fairly early on - before it becomes exclusive or a relationship or serious. It is a big part of compatibility.

[Anonymous]

may be not in OLD but people should declare during the first month of dating.

My 42yr old ex-gf has issues with sex drive, vaginal dryness, reaching orgasm and a few other things that she didn't disclose and hid it for a while, never took treatment and became one of the factors of me breaking up with her.

Having issues is ok but honestly disclosing them shows accountability and respect for the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:may be not in OLD but people should declare during the first month of dating.

My 42yr old ex-gf has issues with sex drive, vaginal dryness, reaching orgasm and a few other things that she didn't disclose and hid it for a while, never took treatment and became one of the factors of me breaking up with her.

Having issues is ok but honestly disclosing them shows accountability and respect for the relationship.

It’s also possible that you were the source of these problems for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have had far too many bad experiences where I’ve met someone, only to later discover they are on SSRIs ( and all the negatives which that entails). No thanks !

Should it be mandatory on OLD to disclose this up front?

How did you go about discovering multiple people you've had bad experiences with are on SSRIs?

It seems you believe your bad experiences are due to others' use of SSRIs, as opposed to being the fault of the common denominator to each situation: You.

[Anonymous]

I disclose pretty quickly that I'm on SSRI because I want nothing to do with anyone so stupid, arrogant, and mentally disturbed as to stigmatize use of SSRIs. Literally every single person I know who freaks out about SSRI use is in the throes of untreated mental illness and too terrified to face it. They're the exact sort of people no one with a stable, happy life should be burdened with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not OP but had issue with men on SSRIs. One of side effects is intimacy: they either can't get it up or can't finish for hours.

Most men past a certain age have the same issue. Most women have health issues too. It's so shortsighted and hypocritical to act like you'll never have an issue yourself and discount what could be an amazing partner based on this.

DP. A partner who can't perform sexually isn't "amazing" for a person with a healthy sexual appetite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:may be not in OLD but people should declare during the first month of dating.

My 42yr old ex-gf has issues with sex drive, vaginal dryness, reaching orgasm and a few other things that she didn't disclose and hid it for a while, never took treatment and became one of the factors of me breaking up with her.

Having issues is ok but honestly disclosing them shows accountability and respect for the relationship.

All of this sounds like she just wasn't sexually attracted to you. Good call on breaking up, but have the courage to admit to yourself that you're probably selfish and unskilled in bed. That's fixable if you stop telling yourself stupid lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disclose pretty quickly that I'm on SSRI because I want nothing to do with anyone so stupid, arrogant, and mentally disturbed as to stigmatize use of SSRIs. Literally every single person I know who freaks out about SSRI use is in the throes of untreated mental illness and too terrified to face it. They're the exact sort of people no one with a stable, happy life should be burdened with.

amen!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not OP but had issue with men on SSRIs. One of side effects is intimacy: they either can't get it up or can't finish for hours.

Most men past a certain age have the same issue. Most women have health issues too. It's so shortsighted and hypocritical to act like you'll never have an issue yourself and discount what could be an amazing partner based on this.

DP. A partner who can't perform sexually isn't "amazing" for a person with a healthy sexual appetite.

Well if all you value in a man is if he can get it up, sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not OP but had issue with men on SSRIs. One of side effects is intimacy: they either can't get it up or can't finish for hours.

Most men past a certain age have the same issue. Most women have health issues too. It's so shortsighted and hypocritical to act like you'll never have an issue yourself and discount what could be an amazing partner based on this.

DP. A partner who can't perform sexually isn't "amazing" for a person with a healthy sexual appetite.

Well if all you value in a man is if he can get it up, sure.

You seem to have trouble understanding the concept of necessary, but not sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:may be not in OLD but people should declare during the first month of dating.

My 42yr old ex-gf has issues with sex drive, vaginal dryness, reaching orgasm and a few other things that she didn't disclose and hid it for a while, never took treatment and became one of the factors of me breaking up with her.

Having issues is ok but honestly disclosing them shows accountability and respect for the relationship.

How do you hide not having sex? Or she had sex despite not wanting to and did a bait and switch later?

[Anonymous]

The irony of the OP…your anxiety is showing. 😉

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:may be not in OLD but people should declare during the first month of dating.

My 42yr old ex-gf has issues with sex drive, vaginal dryness, reaching orgasm and a few other things that she didn't disclose and hid it for a while, never took treatment and became one of the factors of me breaking up with her.

Having issues is ok but honestly disclosing them shows accountability and respect for the relationship.

How do you hide not having sex? Or she had sex despite not wanting to and did a bait and switch later?

I don’t know exactly what happened but she always had a problem reaching O. Played with a toy for an hour and nothing. Have some medical issues, gained significant weight to around 200 lbs at 5’2” and were having other hormonal issues. She knew about them at the starting and didn’t disclose but situation went worse with time. Hard to exactly pin point one issue as there were a lot together.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:may be not in OLD but people should declare during the first month of dating.

My 42yr old ex-gf has issues with sex drive, vaginal dryness, reaching orgasm and a few other things that she didn't disclose and hid it for a while, never took treatment and became one of the factors of me breaking up with her.

Having issues is ok but honestly disclosing them shows accountability and respect for the relationship.

How do you hide not having sex? Or she had sex despite not wanting to and did a bait and switch later?

I don’t know exactly what happened but she always had a problem reaching O. Played with a toy for an hour and nothing. Have some medical issues, gained significant weight to around 200 lbs at 5’2” and were having other hormonal issues. She knew about them at the starting and didn’t disclose but situation went worse with time. Hard to exactly pin point one issue as there were a lot together.

It's good you dumped her. At that weight and height, it is unlikely she has any energy left to do anything.