How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many folks are contributing ?

4

First time I’ve ever dealt with people contributing for a trip so I don’t have a norm per se for this situation.

I did consider the amount of dinner as a few mentioned too. I wasn’t sure if that worked but glad to hear it can in these situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many folks are contributing ?

4

First time I’ve ever dealt with people contributing for a trip so I don’t have a norm per se for this situation.

I did consider the amount of dinner as a few mentioned too. I wasn’t sure if that worked but glad to hear it can in these situations.

Oh, nothing if it's only 4 people. That's ridiculous. You give a gift card or find out if there's one small excursion you can pay for the birthday person.

[Anonymous]

This is weird. Why would you give anything if you're not going?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None since you arent going. I would send a bottle of nice wine or champagne to a dinner instead.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero, I'd give my own gift or take them out to dinner

+1

[Anonymous]

Nothing. You’re not going.

[Anonymous]

I assume none of the 4 are going on the trip, correct? It's just like 4 people coming together to pay for the trip? My siblings and I do this for our parents. I would also consider chipping in for a trip if the person needed this trip for some reason and can't afford it. But otherwise, I don't know how 4 people pay for someone else's trip. How much will the trip cost? 4K? 3K? Even 2K? I'd have to really feel strongly about this person to contribute even $500.

[Anonymous]

Uh, none?

[Anonymous]

Zero. Why would you contribute?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is weird. Why would you give anything if you're not going?

This

[Anonymous]

Is anyone going on the trip? Like is the trip itself a gift for say parents 50th anniversary or is this a girl trip?. For some like anniversary gift you contribute however it's split for girls trip nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None since you arent going. I would send a bottle of nice wine or champagne to a dinner instead.

+1

+2 this is the correct answer

[Anonymous]

I would say nothing... unless plans for the trip were made based on you going, and then you had to back out for some reason. I wouldn't ask other people to pay more then they had originally planned. If that's the case, I would honor whatever you had planned on paying. But if you were never going to go, then you don't owe anything.

[Anonymous]

Technically if you are not attending a party you are not expected to provide a birthday 🎁 gift however if you choose to provide one that is a nice gesture to do.

In this case, even $20 would be a nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. You’re not going.

This, it’s not a wedding.