Going a step further with school dress code

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Anonymous wrote:I do not allow my kids to wear pajamas to school. But they can wear sweats and athletic gear.

I don’t love pajamas for daywear but I’d rather my DD wore pajamas than look like a hooker. Some of the girls in her MS hardly have any clothes on.
DD wore grinch flannel pajama bottoms all day. I’m not complaining

Are pajamas or looking like a hooker really the only options here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. My kid dresses more formally than I would expect her to, by choice. She likes shirts tucked in, loves dresses with stockings, and often wears a little cardigan with just the top one or two buttons buttoned to finish it off. I have never asked her to do this, and most of the other kids don't dress that way. She likes it though and I buy clothes she likes.

I think the teachers find it charming, some of the other kids find it off-putting, but the girls she's friends with admire her style. I wouldn't force a kid to dress this way, because if it wasn't a choice, I think it would feel bothering or embarrassing.

I bet some of the teachers and other parents think I make her do it. Oh well.

This is my DD too! And I grew up in the days of "Pretty in Pink" and "Heathers" where the fashionable kids really did it up with blouses, vests, broaches, paisley! She gets all the same reactions you mentioned above except that I know the teachers don't think I'm putting her up to it because all I wear now when they see me is athleisure.

I think she is very much influenced by manga/Japanese dressing up, victorian steam punk, office goth, etc. So another side of the same wheel.

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I was in jeans and sweatshirts and my sister used to go all out. She dressed up like one of the Twin peaks girls ( the tv show, not thr hooters style restaurant). My mom wanted me to look more like that but deep down i knew I wasn't pretty enough to pull it off. So her only rule was no pajamas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not allow my kids to wear pajamas to school. But they can wear sweats and athletic gear.

I don’t love pajamas for daywear but I’d rather my DD wore pajamas than look like a hooker. Some of the girls in her MS hardly have any clothes on.
DD wore grinch flannel pajama bottoms all day. I’m not complaining

Are pajamas or looking like a hooker really the only options here?

Nope, Im just saying that I am ok with pajamas given what some girls her age are wearing.

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My rule was to not have Minecraft and Disney emblazoned clothing. A plain shirt and Nike sweatpants, fine. Also didn’t allow dumb fuzzy socks and pajamas to school.

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Anonymous wrote:I will not allow to let my kids wear shorts outside when its freezing cold. Also no PJs unless its a fun dress up day. I do allow my son wear dri fit material clothing/gym attire due to sensory issues.


Does anyone have recommendations for pants that have a similar feel and not restrictive?

Crew cuts makes pants like this. https://factory.jcrew.com/p/boys/categories/clothing/pants/pull-on-pants/boys-pull-on-tech-pant/AZ301

I also love their polos and q zips for my son.

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What’s people’s reasoning for now allowing character clothing?

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I’m going to be honest: no. Kids can be mean, and bullies will make fun of children dressed up every day. Let them wear sweatpants and athletic hoodies. They’ll have a better school experience, I promise.

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My mother tried to say we couldn't wear shorts. Um, it was sometimes 90 degrees out.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s people’s reasoning for now allowing character clothing?

If I had to guess, because it looks cheap.
I let my kid wear character clothing though because she likes it. It’s rare tbh… sge mostly wears athletic brands. Every now and then though she wears a Spider-Man tshirt.

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I have teen daughters and don’t allow midriff, cleavage, or bottom showing (out the bottom of shorts.) I also don’t allow spaghetti straps or strapless tops in warm weather.

It’s crazy that these aren’t rules, but oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not allow my kids to wear pajamas to school. But they can wear sweats and athletic gear.

I don’t love pajamas for daywear but I’d rather my DD wore pajamas than look like a hooker. Some of the girls in her MS hardly have any clothes on.
DD wore grinch flannel pajama bottoms all day. I’m not complaining

Pjs are much much better than what the non pj girlies are wearing.

I'd rather kids have a bit of fun than have to dress "professionally" for school. I had to do that for private school and the only time in my life, so far, where I could have fun with my wardrobe was in college. Koda will have to dress for work soon enough.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be happy if I could just get my teenagers to wear a damn coat.

Same!

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I come from a foreign country that all public schools (ES/MS/HS) are required to to wear uniforms. They are not as cute and as short as the ones compared to Japan or Korea, but they are similar styles. It makes life easier for parents and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come from a foreign country that all public schools (ES/MS/HS) are required to to wear uniforms. They are not as cute and as short as the ones compared to Japan or Korea, but they are similar styles. It makes life easier for parents and kids.

I wish…but we are not dearly as disciplined as a society to be able to do this.