Do parents still get gifts for hosting birthday party?

[Anonymous]

I always give them what they want. If they elect to not have a party then they don’t get extra gifts.

[Anonymous]

No. We give the kid a budget and ask them how much they want spent on the party and how much they want spent in the gift. Gift budget maxes out lower than the total budget, so there’s always a certain percentage that goes to the party. DS 2 wants an epic bash, so he’ll get thoughtful cards from us.

[Anonymous]

I give small gifts. But I wouldn’t get a second cake and dinner out… that sounds like a second party.

I also wouldn’t spend that much on a kid’s party.

[Anonymous]

We have always given our children a gift, in addition to the birthday party

[Anonymous]

The party is the gift and guests presence is the child’s present.

We don’t do goodie bags so we don’t send your kid home w crap and we don’t want you to give us crap. Our kids have more than enough from extended family.

Homemade cards are welcome.

Kids get a party, pizza, cake and maybe they do a craft. It’s a fancy play date.

When we go to a kids party, even if we don’t stay, we bring the host a bottle of wine as a thank you for entertaining our kid(s).

Grandparents get our kids gifts, though we push for experiences (take them to the movies) vs stuff. But we stopped trying to reign in the grands and auntie/uncles. Those gifts are done in private.

[Anonymous]

We do no gift parties but give gifts from family / mom&dad. If they want to do a home party with a couple friends with gifts they can choose that as they get older. We also spend less than op on venue parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The party is the gift and guests presence is the child’s present.

We don’t do goodie bags so we don’t send your kid home w crap and we don’t want you to give us crap. Our kids have more than enough from extended family.

Homemade cards are welcome.

Kids get a party, pizza, cake and maybe they do a craft. It’s a fancy play date.

When we go to a kids party, even if we don’t stay, we bring the host a bottle of wine as a thank you for entertaining our kid(s).

Grandparents get our kids gifts, though we push for experiences (take them to the movies) vs stuff. But we stopped trying to reign in the grands and auntie/uncles. Those gifts are done in private.

Goodie bags shouldn’t and don’t need to be crap. It’s to thank your guest for coming. All kids love goodie bags sorry yours don’t get to experience that.

[Anonymous]

Of course our child gets a gift from the parents. We usually do a birthday dinner on the actual birthday either at home or out whatever the birthday child prefers. Then we give one gift from parents and one from sibling. The party is to celebrate with friends usually not on the actual birthdate.

We only invite 10-12 kids max so it’s usually $300-$500 if we do it outside the home in the winter.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course.

The two things are separate. You should always give your child a birthday gift that they want and you can afford.

The party is separate: If you want to throw a party, AND your child wants a party, AND you can afford to throw a party, then go for it. If you don’t meet all 3 criteria, then celebrate at home or do something special as a family. Don’t make it weird by making the party the birthday gift. Ugh

[Anonymous]

Yes but usually a small gift. Often on their actual bday vs the day of the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If parents pay for a kid's birthday party (average costs $600 to $1000 in our area), do parents still get birthday gifts for the birthday kid or call the party as a gift? The birthday kid will receive a lot of gifts. Those gifts may or may not be the ones that birthday kid wants but that is how it is and he/she needs to learn to appreciate it. We don't do gift registry because it is tacky. Parents will still take the birthday kid to eat out plus have another birthday cake at home on actual birthday.

Have the party you can afford then you can give gifts

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live that the average party is $800?

Last 2 hour party I booked started at $1300, with $79 for each additional kid.

Just curious where you held this party? I just threw a very successful 2-hour birthday party and each kid was $35.

[Anonymous]

We always give gifts but the type of party will affect the gift budget. If my kid wants an expensive venue party then they know that is their biggest present. If they want something small (e.g. a sleepover with a handful of friends) then we’ll splurge on something nicer. We also do a family dinner (either take out or at a restaurant) plus cake on the actual birthday because most of the time parties end up on a different date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The party is the gift and guests presence is the child’s present.

We don’t do goodie bags so we don’t send your kid home w crap and we don’t want you to give us crap. Our kids have more than enough from extended family.

Homemade cards are welcome.

Kids get a party, pizza, cake and maybe they do a craft. It’s a fancy play date.

When we go to a kids party, even if we don’t stay, we bring the host a bottle of wine as a thank you for entertaining our kid(s).

Grandparents get our kids gifts, though we push for experiences (take them to the movies) vs stuff. But we stopped trying to reign in the grands and auntie/uncles. Those gifts are done in private.

Goodie bags shouldn’t and don’t need to be crap. It’s to thank your guest for coming. All kids love goodie bags sorry yours don’t get to experience that.

Np. What are you giving that isn't crap?

[Anonymous]

We do a party and also give gifts. But we also spend significantly less on the party.