Can I throw his stuff away?

[Anonymous]

No text him and say he has a week to get it or you donate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BF and I split over 6 months ago, he moved out. For context, he's a massive procrastinator and overall super lazy.

He left some stuff at my place - art, clothes, books, etc. Can I go ahead and throw it all out? I feel like 6 months is plenty of time to pick it up without needing to be reminded.

He has ADHD. He doesn't even remember that he left the things behind. He definitely won't be coming by to pick them up.

[Anonymous]

I put his stuff on the driveway, double locked the doors, and left. I said you have 12 hours to pick up, then it’s gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. And who are these men moving in with women anyways?

I call them hobosexuals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I put his stuff on the driveway, double locked the doors, and left. I said you have 12 hours to pick up, then it’s gone.

And? Did he?

[Anonymous]

Don't be petty. Putting art and books in a dumpster? Are you PPs barbarians?
People can enjoy those.
Give him notice and say they will be donated if not picked up. List the art explicitly.

[Anonymous]

If you know where he lives and it’s not too far, drop it off at his doorstep. Otherwise tell him you’re putting it out tomorrow at x time, and if he doesn’t pick it up it’ll go in the trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No text him and say he has a week to get it or you donate it.

This.

[Anonymous]

"If it's not picked up by ___ date, I will discard it."

If others are going through this, is that should have been stated 5 1/2 months ago

[Anonymous]

Give final warning with timeline of a week to get

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. And who are these men moving in with women anyways?

I call them hobosexuals.

I call them smart. Most men do not have as nice a place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people saying give him a notice? It has been there for 6 months. He doesn’t need a reminder… he doesn’t need anything because he left. Toss it all.

It hasn't been outside. Put it outside and send a text with a pic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BF and I split over 6 months ago, he moved out. For context, he's a massive procrastinator and overall super lazy.

He left some stuff at my place - art, clothes, books, etc. Can I go ahead and throw it all out? I feel like 6 months is plenty of time to pick it up without needing to be reminded.

This is one of those "How you handle this is about you, not him" situations. It's been 6 months. If you're still inclined to be spiteful and petty, that's about you, not him.

Send him a casual text saying something like "I was cleaning my place and I found these things. If you want them, please let me know when you can come by this week and I'll set them out for you. If you don't want them, no text needed. I'll donate them next Saturday."

Be a decent person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people saying give him a notice? It has been there for 6 months. He doesn’t need a reminder… he doesn’t need anything because he left. Toss it all.

It hasn't been outside. Put it outside and send a text with a pic.

Definitely include a pic or itemized list. He may not remember what he left, and while you don't consider it valuable/important, he might.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My BF and I split over 6 months ago, he moved out. For context, he's a massive procrastinator and overall super lazy.

He left some stuff at my place - art, clothes, books, etc. Can I go ahead and throw it all out? I feel like 6 months is plenty of time to pick it up without needing to be reminded.

This is one of those "How you handle this is about you, not him" situations. It's been 6 months. If you're still inclined to be spiteful and petty, that's about you, not him.

Send him a casual text saying something like "I was cleaning my place and I found these things. If you want them, please let me know when you can come by this week and I'll set them out for you. If you don't want them, no text needed. I'll donate them next Saturday."

Be a decent person.

And 5 days after the “Next Saturday” deadline, he’ll text her: “I was sick/on vacation. Can I come get it next weekend?”

If he hasn't asked for it by now, he doesn’t want it.