Working moms- do you prefer to catch up with friends by phone or is text ok?

[Anonymous]

Definitely Text. It has nothing to do with caring. My friends who want to talk on the phone tend to be older and/or not as busy as some of my other friends (no kids, or partner or don’t work)

[Anonymous]

Texting friends for catching up is lazy. Texting is for "oh I'm running 10 minutes late" or just a quick short note. Nothing else. Call your friends and make time for them.

[Anonymous]

Texting means I don't ever need to catch up. My friends and I talk almost every day.

[Anonymous]

Are these friends local?

Local friends, I text to arrange plans and that’s it. I very rarely “catch up” in between, and yes, if we do it’s a quick text.

Far away friends that I’m seeing 2x a year or less? Call. You can’t maintain a friendship over text, sorry.

[Anonymous]

I find the cognitive load of texts (really any notifications) too much for me. I know a lot of people prefer it, but it just doesn’t work for me anymore.

Over the last year I did the slow fade on friends who just text. Nothing against them, I know people are busy, but random texts aren’t adding anything to my life, and if neither of us are a priority to the other to actually talk or meet up, it’s not a friendship I need to continue. It’s okay to let some friends go.

[Anonymous]

90% of my communication are text but I’ll call about 1x a week driving or walking to catch up.

Some people love talking on the phone. I don’t really like it so I have to be doing something else.

Please don’t chew, yell at your dog, talk to other people, walk away from your phone with AirPods in, etc while on phone… I can talk later or text me,

That’s rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the cognitive load of texts (really any notifications) too much for me. I know a lot of people prefer it, but it just doesn’t work for me anymore.

Over the last year I did the slow fade on friends who just text. Nothing against them, I know people are busy, but random texts aren’t adding anything to my life, and if neither of us are a priority to the other to actually talk or meet up, it’s not a friendship I need to continue. It’s okay to let some friends go.

Do you have people in your life that text you but never see you?

[Anonymous]

Neither.
Let’s meet up.

[Anonymous]

I hate talking on the phone. I find my female friends who demand this want to talk for an hour. Too much. I’m busy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer text. I don't have any friends who want to talk on the phone.

I have a few. They’re single

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Phone. I don't want to read screens or type any more than I have to. I put an earbud in, and chat away with my cousins and friends while we fold laundry, water plants, wash dishes, dust, knit, whatever.

This. I have one friend in particular who I unwind with on the phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate talking on the phone. I find my female friends who demand this want to talk for an hour. Too much. I’m busy

Same here. I spend a good chunk of the work day on the phone/zoom and really just don't want to talk when evening comes around. And the friend who wants to talk the most often is always calling me while doing other things - talking to her kids, making dinner, clanking dishes around, etc. It doesn't make for a pleasant conversation.

[Anonymous]

I prefer the Marco Polo app (as someone already mentioned) or voice notes. So much easier than text.

[Anonymous]

I’ve actually been thinking a lot about this recently. I have one close friend who really prefers to catch up over the phone and gets annoyed that I default to text. However, she always wants to catch up on her drive home from work - and she lives in Denver so she’s two hours behind me. I usually miss her calls because they come in the middle of our dinner/bath/bedtime routine. I always call her back later the same night when I have some free time, but then she’s unavailable for the same reason. (We both have young kids.) I totally get why some people prefer the phone, especially for maintaining long-distance friendships, but it can be really impractical. Text is better than nothing!

[Anonymous]

Text. Talking is boomer