Just sent my mother a HB text!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow this is a really low bar for the minimum thing to do. If I were your mother I would jump off a bridge.

Lol, such a troll response.

No I am not a troll. Sorry. Plenty of people deal with family members they don't like or get along with. Do you think other people live in an episode of a TV show? Is that how they manage it? No, they do not. Be a better person. There is nothing else.

Ok, you are a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness, can’t we please write out what HB stands for for clarity? You lost a lot of
people at first.

[Anonymous]

What the f is an HB text? Like you couldn’t spell if out, really?

[Anonymous]

I feel this acutely, OP. I spend hours agonizing about whether I’m going to send a note and it takes incredible mental and emotional effort to actually do so.

[Anonymous]

Did you literally text her “HB”?

[Anonymous]

I’m wondering what an HB text is too. I opened the thread expecting it to be I sent my mother a text intended for my husband which was raunchy or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not on good terms with my mother, but I did send her a HB text at 8pm! I expect no response, but feel relieved I did it. Sigh! She is 79….so really sad.

Why, because she is different than you?
Or was it true abuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a HB text?

Happy Birthday text

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the f is an HB text? Like you couldn’t spell if out, really?

Happy birthday 🎁

[Anonymous]

For those of us that come from dysfunctional and abusive homes, we get it.
Sometimes a happy birthday text is all we are going to do.

[Anonymous]

I couldn't acknowledge any holidays to my mother for years, because so many of the times I did she critiqued the way I did it. "You spelled anniversary wrong - go rewrite it and give it back." "This isn't technically a birthday card because happy birthday isn't printed on it." "That's not the way I taught you to spell Hanukah." And on and on. There was always a problem with whatever card, whatever gift. So in my early 20's, I just ... stopped. Nothing was good enough, so why put in the effort or money? It was like I was paying to get criticized.

So I get it, OP. Maybe next year you can send her a birthday text in the AM? Baby steps!

[Anonymous]

I recommend you send a card next year to check the box without worrying about whether she will reply!

[Anonymous]

You can call your mother on her birthday. Good grief, grow up. If a birthday text is all you can do, you are harboring some pretty petty grievances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not on good terms with my mother, but I did send her a HB text at 8pm! I expect no response, but feel relieved I did it. Sigh! She is 79….so really sad.

Why, because she is different than you?
Or was it true abuse?

I'm guessing not. Probably something perceived as criticism, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you guys don't get along, I understand why you did the absolute minimum, but I don't think she'll be that chuffed, since... it's the absolute minimum. So, you kept the status quo, I guess. Yeah...?

Yes, texting is basically being passive aggressive and somehow the OP thinks she was the bigger one. I agree with OP- this is really sad. But not for the reason she thinks.