Has anyone regretted their ED choice?

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it. So she was perfectly happy with the school until she found out that kids who she thinks are inferior at her might be going to school with her? Not a good look.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of DC’s friends is regretting it because she was steered by school counselor to change her ED school. It turned out now kids with lower stats are ED her original choice. Should stick to your guns.

This is really where ED goes off the rails. In its purist sense ED is a good thing - kids who truly know they want to attend a specific school should be able to benefit a bit from that commitment. But when strategy drives ED decisions and a counselor steers and ED application what are we really doing?

Lots of steering going on at privates. They can't force kids to not ED or ED a particular school. But they will say something like oh we can't support that many kids ED this school. Some kids got chicken out and move on to second choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of DC’s friends is regretting it because she was steered by school counselor to change her ED school. It turned out now kids with lower stats are ED her original choice. Should stick to your guns.

Obviously! dont ED unless it's your first choice, or it's a choice you are willing to live with. Simple as that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of DC’s friends is regretting it because she was steered by school counselor to change her ED school. It turned out now kids with lower stats are ED her original choice. Should stick to your guns.

This is really where ED goes off the rails. In its purist sense ED is a good thing - kids who truly know they want to attend a specific school should be able to benefit a bit from that commitment. But when strategy drives ED decisions and a counselor steers and ED application what are we really doing?

Umm...if an 17/18 yo with parental assistance cannot understand ED and the choices, they just might not be ready for a 4 year college (certainly not one that has ED). ED is great for people who understand it, if not, don't do it. If your kid is easily swayed by a counselor, then you have bigger issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid has two t20 ED finalists she equally likes. Both schools are excellent in her desired major, and her SAT score is between the 25th and 50th percentile of both. What makes it not a coin toss situation is that School 1 returns to test required this year where her SAT would look better, while School 2 remains TO. She decides however to ED to School 2. Not sure if she'd second guess herself later.

But she knows the facts and choices. She has to live with them, and anyone EDing should easily understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of DC’s friends is regretting it because she was steered by school counselor to change her ED school. It turned out now kids with lower stats are ED her original choice. Should stick to your guns.

This is really where ED goes off the rails. In its purist sense ED is a good thing - kids who truly know they want to attend a specific school should be able to benefit a bit from that commitment. But when strategy drives ED decisions and a counselor steers and ED application what are we really doing?

Agree and this becomes real in the Spring when students who felt pressured into EDI/EDII start to see where their peers get accepted and also see them have the experience of making a choice between several schools.

OMG---if you know that will happen, then don't let your kid ED. They are not 3, they are 17/18 and heading to college (most likely a good college if they are thinking of EDing). At some point take responsibility for your choices. Parents can help guide this

[Anonymous]

ED isn’t good for hopeless strivers. They apparently need to apply everywhere, and see where everyone else is gone.

DD has never wavered on her choice and just hopes it will all be done mid December.

[Anonymous]

Unless it is the top 5 HYPMS or absolutely your dream school, there will always be buyers remorse risk for ED. It is the more solemn version of Groucho Marx's I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.

[Anonymous]

My two kids both did ED to different universities. They are there now and seem happy. It made the process so much simpler. I have not heard either kid voice regret but they also didn’t undershoot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless it is the top 5 HYPMS or absolutely your dream school, there will always be buyers remorse risk for ED. It is the more solemn version of Groucho Marx's I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.

Both my kids applied and were accepted ED to their genuine first choices. Not T20 schools, and very different schools between them. Neither applied to another school. Neither regretted it. The only reason you should apply ED is if it is indeed your first choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of DC’s friends is regretting it because she was steered by school counselor to change her ED school. It turned out now kids with lower stats are ED her original choice. Should stick to your guns.

There is something profoundly sad when the choice of a school is based upon prestige and peer pressure instead of selecting one that is a good fit for the student academically and personally. Programs, culture and location vary widely among Top 20 colleges. If the kid believed that her original choice was a good fit, and she changed it based upon the advice of the counselor, that is really unfortunate. If not, things will probably turn out fine as people have said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ED isn’t good for hopeless strivers. They apparently need to apply everywhere, and see where everyone else is gone.

DD has never wavered on her choice and just hopes it will all be done mid December.

Unnecessarily rude comment.

[Anonymous]

We (Mom and Dad) pushed him to REA. Really, really pushed. But he ED'd elsewhere and it turned out to be the right place for him. No regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ED isn’t good for hopeless strivers. They apparently need to apply everywhere, and see where everyone else is gone.

DD has never wavered on her choice and just hopes it will all be done mid December.

This! Apply ED if you have a top choice, or if you are willing to compromise and apply to a place where ED will give you "a slightly better change" but you'd better really also like that ED choice. Otherwise, don't ED.

If you want to play games, then you must also be smart enough to know that you might have some regrets. It's really not that difficult to understand

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless it is the top 5 HYPMS or absolutely your dream school, there will always be buyers remorse risk for ED. It is the more solemn version of Groucho Marx's I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.

Both my kids applied and were accepted ED to their genuine first choices. Not T20 schools, and very different schools between them. Neither applied to another school. Neither regretted it. The only reason you should apply ED is if it is indeed your first choice.

They seriously waited until Dec15 and let EA deadlines pass them by? I agree apply ED to your top choices, but you should also do EA at any school who has it and get the applications in by that deadline as well. Just in case ED doesn't work out