What would you change about your love life?

[Anonymous]

Would change it from nonexistent to existent…

[Anonymous]

When PPs above say they'd like rougher in the bedroom, what exactly is wanted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When PPs above say they'd like rougher in the bedroom, what exactly is wanted?

I'm the original PP. Holding me down harder (he does it but not as hard as I'd like but thats what he's comfortable with), different toys than the standard stuff we use, some things that fall more in line with BDSM.
I sometimes enjoy that being tossed around manhandled type of sex, and DH is comfortable with a light version of it. It's a good compromise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my BF were older.

I’m 39 with kids, he’s 30 no kids. He’s literally the perfect man and exactly what I have wanted my entire life. I’ve never met anybody like him.

But, I refuse to let him give up his life to be with me. I know he has ambitions that require him to move, and he wanted his own kids. He says he’s okay with giving that up but I won’t let him. Not at age 30. I know he would end up regretting it in 10 years.

So I keep pushing him to apply for jobs I know he wants that are out of state, knowing he’s going to end up moving away someday. Which sucks. I’ll miss him terribly.

Tell me you’re a commitment commitmentphobe without telling me…

I’m not a commitmentphobe, but I do think 30 is WAY too young to give up career and family aspirations for someone, especially someone who already has kids. 40, sure, you have enough lived experience to know what you’re getting into. But 30 is still so young and I don’t want him missing out on important aspects of life.

I agree with the PP.

You either need to set him free now, or you need to accept his commitment and commit to making the relationship work.

I also know a few couples like your situation at the 20 year mark who are happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have had cancer and had to stop systemic HRT.

I’m sorry

[Anonymous]

Erase some of the hurtful things we have said to each other in the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would change it from nonexistent to existent…

Similar….

Would change it from nearly non-existent to enthusiastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my BF were older.

I’m 39 with kids, he’s 30 no kids. He’s literally the perfect man and exactly what I have wanted my entire life. I’ve never met anybody like him.

But, I refuse to let him give up his life to be with me. I know he has ambitions that require him to move, and he wanted his own kids. He says he’s okay with giving that up but I won’t let him. Not at age 30. I know he would end up regretting it in 10 years.

So I keep pushing him to apply for jobs I know he wants that are out of state, knowing he’s going to end up moving away someday. Which sucks. I’ll miss him terribly.

Tell me you’re a commitment commitmentphobe without telling me…

I’m not a commitmentphobe, but I do think 30 is WAY too young to give up career and family aspirations for someone, especially someone who already has kids. 40, sure, you have enough lived experience to know what you’re getting into. But 30 is still so young and I don’t want him missing out on important aspects of life.

You were likely around his age or younger when you decided to marry and have kids presumably you were old enough to make those choices about your life and so is he.

Bec5 if he's as young and incapable as you say you shouldn't be dating him.

But let's be real it's got nothing to do with you worrying hell miss out that's crap and you know it

You get off on banging a guy 10 years younger and telling people that it feeds your ego. You simply want to use him and pretend like you're so conflicted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would change it from nonexistent to existent…

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my BF were older.

I’m 39 with kids, he’s 30 no kids. He’s literally the perfect man and exactly what I have wanted my entire life. I’ve never met anybody like him.

But, I refuse to let him give up his life to be with me. I know he has ambitions that require him to move, and he wanted his own kids. He says he’s okay with giving that up but I won’t let him. Not at age 30. I know he would end up regretting it in 10 years.

So I keep pushing him to apply for jobs I know he wants that are out of state, knowing he’s going to end up moving away someday. Which sucks. I’ll miss him terribly.

Yeah set that man free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would change it from nonexistent to existent…

Similar….

Would change it from nearly non-existent to enthusiastic.

This. Or change the whole man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my BF were older.

I’m 39 with kids, he’s 30 no kids. He’s literally the perfect man and exactly what I have wanted my entire life. I’ve never met anybody like him.

But, I refuse to let him give up his life to be with me. I know he has ambitions that require him to move, and he wanted his own kids. He says he’s okay with giving that up but I won’t let him. Not at age 30. I know he would end up regretting it in 10 years.

So I keep pushing him to apply for jobs I know he wants that are out of state, knowing he’s going to end up moving away someday. Which sucks. I’ll miss him terribly.

Tell me you’re a commitment commitmentphobe without telling me…

I’m not a commitmentphobe, but I do think 30 is WAY too young to give up career and family aspirations for someone, especially someone who already has kids. 40, sure, you have enough lived experience to know what you’re getting into. But 30 is still so young and I don’t want him missing out on important aspects of life.

You were likely around his age or younger when you decided to marry and have kids presumably you were old enough to make those choices about your life and so is he.

Bec5 if he's as young and incapable as you say you shouldn't be dating him.

But let's be real it's got nothing to do with you worrying hell miss out that's crap and you know it

You get off on banging a guy 10 years younger and telling people that it feeds your ego. You simply want to use him and pretend like you're so conflicted.

If you reverse the genders and a 30 year old woman was considering giving up her career aspirations and having her own children for a 40 year old man with kids, everyone would tell her not to.

It’s actually a good practice in age gap relationships for the older partner to keep the younger partner’s best interest in mind, especially since they have more experience and more fully understand the consequences of these big decisions.

[Anonymous]

Positions! Missionary, doggie and cowgirl aren't enough after 27 years together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wish DH was a little rougher/more adventurous in bed. We've reached a good place where we are both comfortable and satisfied, but if there was one thing I could change, it would be that.

Same with my BF. He’s religious and struggles with sex already, so rougher stuff is off the table for now. I think some of the stuff I want would completely freak him out.

But….*sigh*. The guy I dated before him was a terrible boyfriend, but rocked my world in the bedroom. I’d usually O 8-10 times.

Religious and fornication are contradictory. Dont have sex outside marriage. Get married and then have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Positions! Missionary, doggie and cowgirl aren't enough after 27 years together.

What else do you want? Are you the man or woman?