If grandparents offered to pay for private would you take it?

[Anonymous]

We gratefully accept but we could pay for it anyway, so it doesn’t feel like there are strings attached. I can imagine the level of strings varies a ton by family so you have to make your own judgment. It’s okay to say yes and it’s okay to say no thank you.

[Anonymous]

OP here - No plans for more kids. Their offer is for K-8 as of now for both kids with the understanding that tuition increases each year. Luckily, they are not the strings attached type (at least they have never been to this point. DH and I have been together 18 years.)

[Anonymous]

I attended private for k-8 and then public for HS. Each had its advantages. I can't tell you what those are for your situation, but I think you need to look at pros and cons for each specific school and make a decision based on what you think is best for your kid and your family. If the "right" private school requires a 45 minute commute each way that might not work. But I do think you need to do some school visits.

Fwiw my kid is in 1st grade in public, is happy and has lots of neighborhood friends, is learning a ton and has wonderful teachers. No amount of money would make me want to change schools.

[Anonymous]

For elementary school? No. Heck no. Waste of money.

[Anonymous]

Own it Op. If you want private don't hide behind, "it's what the Grandparents want."

[Anonymous]

No, I would ask them to keep the money for college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - No plans for more kids. Their offer is for K-8 as of now for both kids with the understanding that tuition increases each year. Luckily, they are not the strings attached type (at least they have never been to this point. DH and I have been together 18 years.)

Are you okay with taking the offer now, the kids thrive in K-8 and then the in-laws won't pay for HS but you can't afford it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In laws are offering to pay for our two kids to go to private as they are concerned with where things stand with the current education system. We have a rising Kindergartener next year and one in preschool now. I am all for smaller class sizes and opportunities that private schools provide, but DH nor I attended private school. We are not poor by any means, but we do not drive fancy cars and live in a townhouse in NOVA. We both work full time and can't attend lot of the extra curriculars and parent events that I am being told there are. I feel like we are not going to fit in socially and won't have much in common with the other parents, but I care more about their education than anything. Would love some input from anyone in our situation.

Oh just stop.

Public schools are great; you are brain-dead.

There is no private school in the DMV that beats public school, particularly in math & science.

I am in the 1% of this country financially, and I would never think like your idiotic in-laws or you.

Yes, some kids need private school. There is nothing wrong with that; however, to say that private is overall better than public, you are an idiot. Go back to your hole MAGA.

[Anonymous]

My parents offered to pay. We turned it down only because we determined that public school would be better than private for our particular kids. But if it had been the other way around, we would have taken it.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who claims "private is always better than public" or "public is always better than private" has no credibility.

[Anonymous]

They did, and I didn’t. I felt strongly about not raising a sheltered kid.

I asked instead for them to help with college tuition. But she got a full ride so maybe they’ll pitch in for grad school? Though she’s talking about going for a PhD so no tuition to pay there either.

[Anonymous]

You should absolutely except for you want that experience. This is very very common at private school and you won’t feel out of place (maybe at privates where flaunting wealth is excessive)

Also lots of us private school parents work two ft jobs so not like we’re doing extracurriculars all day

[Anonymous]

I would love to see this so-called list of private schools in the DC area where wealth is flaunted.

[Anonymous]

Honestly this is how most of the families we know pay for a portion or all of private school for their kids. Some are upfront about it. With others, it’s obvious once you know the parents jobs (eg one parent is govt and other is SAH or works part time, etc). You’ll fit in.

[Anonymous]

Do they really know how much private school is? It's not 5k like it is in other states.

I would think downpayment help in a better school district would help.

But yes I'd take private school payment. Our families wouldn't give gifts with strings attached though.