Where can I find well mannered and kind children?

[Anonymous]

Rugby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would call you a judgmental person who cares about surface level issues and labels or criticizes kids she doesn’t understand while supposedly an adult.

Jerks are everywhere. They just look different to different people.

I think you mean where do you find people like you. Church.

I'm going to continue to criticize kids who call adults "bruh," as ill-mannered children. You're not changing my mind on this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sharing OP’s sentiment but for girls. Mine is 8 years old - very polite, no emotional regulation problems etc. I got lucky I know it. her friends behavior is horrible. We had a few girls over at our house for a group play date - there was running, jumping on the couch, jumping on each other, wrestling (I had to interfere a few times as kids very screaming). They did not listen. I asked once, twice, 10th and 20th times and No freaking reaction. I had to raise my voice at some point as they were uncontrollable. 8 years old. Girls. UMC and super sweet parents. Do people not teach kids to be well mannered anymore?!

Why is running and jumping not allowed? We let our kids run around the house
and jump on our basement (playroom) couches. Sounds like they were having fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would call you a judgmental person who cares about surface level issues and labels or criticizes kids she doesn’t understand while supposedly an adult.

Jerks are everywhere. They just look different to different people.

I think you mean where do you find people like you. Church.

My kids' elementary-age peers at our church are out of control. And everyone is too "all are welcome" to address what are very real behavior problems impacting the rest of the congregation. It really bothers me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would call you a judgmental person who cares about surface level issues and labels or criticizes kids she doesn’t understand while supposedly an adult.

Jerks are everywhere. They just look different to different people.

I think you mean where do you find people like you. Church.

My kids' elementary-age peers at our church are out of control. And everyone is too "all are welcome" to address what are very real behavior problems impacting the rest of the congregation. It really bothers me.

Sadly, mine might be one of these. We are doing everything we can to correct their behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would call you a judgmental person who cares about surface level issues and labels or criticizes kids she doesn’t understand while supposedly an adult.

Jerks are everywhere. They just look different to different people.

I think you mean where do you find people like you. Church.

I'm going to continue to criticize kids who call adults "bruh," as ill-mannered children. You're not changing my mind on this one.

Okay. But then your kid won’t have any friends. Hope your judgment keeps you company!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sharing OP’s sentiment but for girls. Mine is 8 years old - very polite, no emotional regulation problems etc. I got lucky I know it. her friends behavior is horrible. We had a few girls over at our house for a group play date - there was running, jumping on the couch, jumping on each other, wrestling (I had to interfere a few times as kids very screaming). They did not listen. I asked once, twice, 10th and 20th times and No freaking reaction. I had to raise my voice at some point as they were uncontrollable. 8 years old. Girls. UMC and super sweet parents. Do people not teach kids to be well mannered anymore?!

Why is running and jumping not allowed? We let our kids run around the house
and jump on our basement (playroom) couches. Sounds like they were having fun!

Seriously. Either set a place they can run and jump or send them outside, but kids want to play. That's good and normal.

I get compliments on how well mannered my kid is all the time, but she still wants to be a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would call you a judgmental person who cares about surface level issues and labels or criticizes kids she doesn’t understand while supposedly an adult.

Jerks are everywhere. They just look different to different people.

I think you mean where do you find people like you. Church.

Did you just stereotype people who go to church as judgmental, surface, and critical of people they don't understand? Ouch.

OP said not only well mannered, but also kind.

[Anonymous]

Do you live in the burbs, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sharing OP’s sentiment but for girls. Mine is 8 years old - very polite, no emotional regulation problems etc. I got lucky I know it. her friends behavior is horrible. We had a few girls over at our house for a group play date - there was running, jumping on the couch, jumping on each other, wrestling (I had to interfere a few times as kids very screaming). They did not listen. I asked once, twice, 10th and 20th times and No freaking reaction. I had to raise my voice at some point as they were uncontrollable. 8 years old. Girls. UMC and super sweet parents. Do people not teach kids to be well mannered anymore?!

Lol. No, most parents don’t train their 8 yos not to run and play. You sound incredibly uptight. I can see why God decided a placid daughter was the right move for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian boys

This. Try Montessori school, put him in tennis.

[Anonymous]

Catholic school. A huge reason we’re there is the kids wear belts and collared shirts every day, adults expect good manners, parents correct each others kids. I couldn’t deal with kids coming over and jumping on furniture. We wait until 8th grade cell phones. Not perfect and kids definitely have screens and misbehave sometimes, but much more in line with the way we grew up in terms of expectations and behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.

Does this describe your kid? Or are you trying to find kids that will help him be that kid?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asian boys

This. Try Montessori school, put him in tennis.

One of the meanest and worst behaved kids I've ever met did tennis and chest club with DS. So....I don't know why you think all tennis kids are going to be what OP wants.

[Anonymous]

Let the boys be boys. A lot of parents are not great role models for behavior. I don't blame the boys, I blame the parents.