The house that allows drinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your family ethos is no drinking under any circumstance then you don’t allow her to go there.

I wouldn’t control what contact she has during the day or during the week.

My ethos is that I know kids are gonna drink. I teach them how to do it safely. I asked that they not stay at loud parties where police are gonna arrive.

I prefer that they sleep at the house so there’s no drinking and driving. I also gave them a no questions asked fully funded Uber account.

My son hung out at “the house that allow drinking” and it usually was just less than 10 guys watching football, hanging out by a pool, eating pizza and playing pool or poker.

My kids ended up in a few “big parties that got loud” and we discussed how we just really had no desire to deal with cops so if they continue to do that, they were gonna lose privileges.

+1 on this. DC was recently at a house where the police were called and managed to get out before they got there (knowing the party was getting too big).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of our neighbors and DD is friends with their daughter have no rules when it comes to drinking. (They are 16). Last night, the party was so loud the police showed up. DD is out of town with sport. She called and I mentioned the raging party and she seemed unsurprised. I get this is pretty common but it still surprised me that parents are willing to take this risk with other people’s children.

No real question besides what do you do? DD is not allowed to sleepover there but Ildi we say no contact with this girl?

Your daughter is 2 years from college. I’d not worry about rules. Instead, I’d wonder about your daughter’s honest thoughts. What does your daughter feel are her boundaries? Does your daughter feel comfortable with it all? I’d look to make sure my daughter were safe, smart and confident. If not, I’d work on my kid.

[Anonymous]

tell her you aren't allowed at her house and that the girl can only be at your house when at adult is home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people think it is better for kids to be at the permissive house vs at college or at the park or whatever. It isn’t.

The world is not black and white.

[Anonymous]

so where can I look up a police report via the address of this house? I have looked on the Fairfax County website and can't find anything