Is comfort not a thing

[Anonymous]

I am older and don’t like the look of any recliner. My adult children often purchase furniture online. You don’t know how it feels until it’s in your living room.

[Anonymous]

What aesthetic is a leather recliner? I can see why they don’t want that.

[Anonymous]

We never had a rocker or recliner for our kids but we read them plenty of books.

[Anonymous]

My mother complains about our couches too. We're early 40s and only recently been able to afford anything nicer. However, our youngest is 5 so we are waiting a bit in hopes the kids won't ruin whatever we buy ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Also, for the nursery, we got a gently used Dutailer rocker off FB marketplace for like $150. Maybe they might be more interested in something like that instead of a leather rocker.

[Anonymous]

Because most people can’t afford nice furniture

And most cheap furniture still “looks” good

[Anonymous]

OP I highly recommend you not be super high maintenance at this stage of your kids lives. I’d flip my lid if I was trying to deal with my kids and feed/host guests and my mil was complaining about the couch not being soft.

[Anonymous]

There are definitely people who are more focused on aesthetics, how their house will look in pictures etc. I agree that doesn't seem comfortable for life with young kids. It's priorities. But not your place, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are definitely people who are more focused on aesthetics, how their house will look in pictures etc. I agree that doesn't seem comfortable for life with young kids. It's priorities. But not your place, OP.

I suppose so, but I would certainly want my parents to be comfortable when they are visiting with my kids.

[Anonymous]

I actually love comfortable leather recliners, but as a mom of young kids, I wouldn’t want one because my kids are going to scribble on it, stab it, spill things on it, etc and it’ll just get destroyed.

Even worse if family offers to buy it for me, now I have the added responsibility and guilt to keep it intact. Too stressful, I don’t want anyone upset with me.

Way easier to just get cheap furniture and upgrade when the kids are older.

[Anonymous]

Hi mom!
The answer is that I like sitting in your giant leather recliner when visiting you but I don't want it in my own house. My friends would not be impressed and I want my living room to look stylish. Plus I hate the thought of my husband spending his evenings sunken in a recliner the way Dad did all my life.

[Anonymous]

I go for comfort over aether if too. My sister in law decorates their home with uncomfortable furniture because it looks good. Means everyone mostly hangs out in their bedrooms as there isn’t a comfortable gathering space to spend time together. Maybe that’s how she wants it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can almost guarantee your old recliners look granny. Your aesthetic is not their aesthetic. And that’s fine. Keep your nasty comments to yourself.

Ok so let’s say you’re right and the chairs are granny. But there are plenty of comfortable chairs that aren’t Granny and where you can put your feet up. Our kids come over and plant themselves in a comfy chair while we play w the kids. It’s a great situation that they clearly enjoy. Why won’t they put comfy chairs in their home? A chair to snuggle up in. They clearly like them. And the grandkids love to snuggle up and read a book after their bath. It’s not aesthetic because there are so many options.
Is it a matter of not wanting to be like their parents?

Theyre sitting in the chairs you have available. It's not like they are purposely picking out these chairs. Youre taking this so personally, its weird. Get over yourself. Its their house, let them furnish it how they like!

[Anonymous]

We do have a leather recliner for my DH, who is 6’5”. It’s not a puffy one, though. We have it because it works for him.

I don’t care about anyone else’s furniture. I don’t care what people think about our furniture. What they like is what they like. Perhaps OP should work on caring less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I highly recommend you not be super high maintenance at this stage of your kids lives. I’d flip my lid if I was trying to deal with my kids and feed/host guests and my mil was complaining about the couch not being soft.

+1, surefire way not to get invited back and start seeing your grandkid less. Stop bothering them and cuddle on the sofa.