Star-crossed lovers
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Anonymous
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You're delusional! |
Anonymous
| He will still be a crappy partner. |
Anonymous
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I don't subscribe to the if he wanted to he would be mindset. Real life and men aren't whips from a dated book.
However op , I do believe in being realistic. I have a guy who is a wonderful human we have a good time together. But he's not capable of being a husband or boyfriend not a good one. You can love him from afar but don't let your fantasy hold you back from living your real life and missing out on a great relationship |
Anonymous
| OP - I am not romantically involved with this person and I know at my age he is not a suitable partner. And no, he is not married. I know it’s silly. It’s just that once in awhile there’s a glimpse of what could have been if he were more mature. Chemistry is something that is rare and we always had it. I always discourage any flirtations on his part and it is not an emotional affair. Secretly I think the same things once in awhile. |
Anonymous
| how old are you now; how old were you when you were together and what was your relationship like? |
Anonymous
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I believe I had a similar pairing in my life and have tried to figure out for a long time why it happened. I’ve given up on the “why” and am focusing on the “because”. It didn’t work out BECAUSE all these other great things were meant to happen which wouldn’t have happened with this person still in my life.
I read on here once that if you could rationalize someone else’s behavior, you could understand it and accept it. I will never understand the reason behind “why” that relationship didn’t work out and that was redirection the universe made for me in the form of the human whose decisions spun me onto a path I never imagined. Can’t say I don’t spend an hour on one specific day every year listening to a nostalgic playlist and marinating in my feels, just to feel it. It’s been 15 years and it is a way to honor the person I was, way back then. Then I thank my lucky stars for perspective and plug back into my life. |
Anonymous
+100 |
Anonymous
| You just said he was a crappy BF when you were together. You’re dumb if you think that will change. Why would you want a crappy BF back??? |
Anonymous
OP - appreciate this, thanks. |
Anonymous
Because OP is an immature person. It's fun to pretend you have a movie-level romantic connection, especially when you don't have to do any of the work that a real relationship requires. |
Anonymous
People grow up and mature. That's why women should date several years older than them, around 10-20 years older on average. Of course that's hard for teenager women to do these days, but once a woman is in her 20s-30s, she should be looking for more mature men who aren't infantile acting anymore. |
Anonymous
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Give it a go OP.
At least discuss this with the person you like. You will regret it if you at least don't give it a talk/shot. |