Lay-Off grief

[Anonymous]

I've never had a dream job before. I envy you.

[Anonymous]

Big hugs, OP, my husband is going through something very similar, it really, really sucks for our family and I know it's a huge blow to his confidence. You are lucky that you have 6 months severance. Use the beginning part of that time to grieve the loss and then start focusing on short term issues and a game plan for the path forward. You just never know what can pop up on the horizon for you, so hold out hope that new opportunities can bring new joys. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

You are must likely URA. Get over it. I was top performer my company and quit for better job and coded URA as boss pissed, laid off another job severance which made me URA, had a boss back stab me and labeled me URA.

URA is UnRegretted Attrition in HR terms in off boarding process you click that box that’s that.

I right now have a great staff but she sometimes annoys me and takes off every chance possible, sometimes dress poorly. I give her good reviews but to be honest I would click URA. She’s just average. Once I click that auto rejected if she tries to reapply,

My one old company even had alumni party every other year and some perks. I am not invited as URA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got laid off yesterday from my dream job. The only other time I have been laid off it was a job that sucked and I hated it and I was already looking for a new job so I was grateful for the severance to focus on finding a new job full time. That lay-off didn't even register with me.

But this one I am so, so sad. I was the only one from my team let go and they all keep texting me that they miss me and that makes me even more sad. I get six months severance but I'd give it up just to keep working there for six months, like if I prove myself to them they'll let me stay. (Even though they've already said it had nothing to do with my performance. At least one person from each team was cut, some teams as many as ten.)

It's like a bad breakup or something but honestly worse because at least when I was single I would tell myself I could find a guy I liked better. I'm looking at the job market now and it absolutely sucks. I am convinced I will never find a job I loved that much.

Anyway. I'm sorry if this is rambling, I'm just really sad right now. I've cried so much over the last 24 hours.

How old are you? If you are under 40 you will be okay. It's a long journey. Under 50 it will be challenging. Over 50 you are done.

[Anonymous]

OK, I will try to reframe it not as a “dream job”.

It’s like saying there’s a soulmate out there for people

There’s more than one job that will make you happy, just as there’s more than one partner that will make you happy in life.

I’m not saying it will be easy, but try not to think of it as this is the only kind of job that would be best for you.

[Anonymous]

Just like a break-up with a guy, you *think* there is no one better - but in fact there is.

You will find a better job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are must likely URA. Get over it. I was top performer my company and quit for better job and coded URA as boss pissed, laid off another job severance which made me URA, had a boss back stab me and labeled me URA.

URA is UnRegretted Attrition in HR terms in off boarding process you click that box that’s that.

I right now have a great staff but she sometimes annoys me and takes off every chance possible, sometimes dress poorly. I give her good reviews but to be honest I would click URA. She’s just average. Once I click that auto rejected if she tries to reapply,

My one old company even had alumni party every other year and some perks. I am not invited as URA

What language is this? Your story is nothing like OP's. You quit. She was laid off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are must likely URA. Get over it. I was top performer my company and quit for better job and coded URA as boss pissed, laid off another job severance which made me URA, had a boss back stab me and labeled me URA.

URA is UnRegretted Attrition in HR terms in off boarding process you click that box that’s that.

I right now have a great staff but she sometimes annoys me and takes off every chance possible, sometimes dress poorly. I give her good reviews but to be honest I would click URA. She’s just average. Once I click that auto rejected if she tries to reapply,

My one old company even had alumni party every other year and some perks. I am not invited as URA

...you would click "URA" (I have never heard that before, did you make that up) because someone "dresses poorly"? What on earth is wrong with you???

[Anonymous]

Let yourself feel the grief!

Also remember that even dream jobs are not forever and there are always other possibilities.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't feel sad. I have just prayed for you and you will get a wonderful job soon. Just keep looking for jobs and keep applying. You will be successful. It is ok to feel sad and grieve for some time. But, better things are coming for you.