Preschool Is “Redshirting” DD

[Anonymous]

For me, this would not be acceptable, given the context you shared about your child. I would request a meeting with admin and if they do not budge, I would find a new preschool ASAP. You still have time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me, this would not be acceptable, given the context you shared about your child. I would request a meeting with admin and if they do not budge, I would find a new preschool ASAP. You still have time.

This. There is so much opportunity that would be lost spending another year with 2yr olds. Talking with and listening to the Director makes sense. Then decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - It’s a preschool that has daycare classrooms. DD’s placement basically means she is doing another year of daycare when we expected her to move up to preschool, which is a big part of the reason we’re so disappointed. (That seemed too complicated to get into in my OP.)

I wouldn’t be okay with this. You wanted preschool, not daycare.

[Anonymous]

I agree with your concerns. If the director can’t do something about this I would try to find a new place.

[Anonymous]

NP. It is private and they can do what they want in admissions and organization. This is sometimes a hard lesson for parents who are used to getting their way all the time. Your choices are to leave or accept their decision.

[Anonymous]

But she's not being held back. She'll still start kg on time. She's just with a different set of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. It is private and they can do what they want in admissions and organization. This is sometimes a hard lesson for parents who are used to getting their way all the time. Your choices are to leave or accept their decision.

Sure, but I don’t think that most people would find it weird to talk to a school director about a child’s class placement before they decide to withdraw.

[Anonymous]

Sounds terrible. Tell them no, and she needs to be with kids going into K or look for a new preschool. She needs a good prek/4 program that will set her up for success, not be with a 3 program.

[Anonymous]

Have fun with your 13 year old freshman
Daughter getting hit on by 16 year old freshman. I have no idea why people wouldn’t redshirt a kid with such a late birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. It is private and they can do what they want in admissions and organization. This is sometimes a hard lesson for parents who are used to getting their way all the time. Your choices are to leave or accept their decision.

Sure, but I don’t think that most people would find it weird to talk to a school director about a child’s class placement before they decide to withdraw.

Sure. But in the end, private schools can do what they like. They do not need OP. She needs them.

[Anonymous]

I would not be okay with this. I hate the idea of redshirting becoming a norm. Here you don't even want it!

If they are not flexible, find a new preschool or daycare/preschool. It's not that hard beyond the infant years. Frankly a less fancy one would probably move kids up more on schedule than one for wealthier parents who are into the whole redshirting thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have fun with your 13 year old freshman
Daughter getting hit on by 16 year old freshman. I have no idea why people wouldn’t redshirt a kid with such a late birthday.

This is such an odd comment. OP with the Aug bday - DD will be 14 starting HS. That is totally normal.

I was 13 (from a mixed area where Dec was the cutoff for some schools) for 2 months of freshman year. There were lots of Aug, Oct etc kids. No one cared?

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks for the responses all. We’re scheduling a meeting with admin. After talking to some of the other parents, I now know we’re not the only family who plans to complain about the situation. I don’t know what caused such a miss on the numbers this year, but hopefully the school will take steps to avoid a similar situation occurring in the future. While I’m not sure that moving to another school this year will be feasible this late in the game, we will certainly start getting on wait lists and do everything we can to make sure DD gets to do a year in PK-4 before going to K.

[Anonymous]

As a parent of older kids, I can confidently say that you are inventing problems. Preschool placement doesn’t matter at all, particularly if there are other similarly aged kids (summer birthdays) in her group.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is being moved according to availability in a daycare classroom. This is not "redshirting."

It's a private daycare--you can try to find alternative or suck it up.