I hate my husbands trashbag family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you think less of people with minimal access to education and of people who have addiction problems. You sound like a snob.

Doesn’t everyone think less of people with addiction problems?

Lots of addicted people have some kind of SN. SN also means they most likely didn't do well in school. Seems like they are doing the best to go through life. I wouldn't spend any time with most of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Relax people- the last paragraph is just context for how willfully ignorant they are. I had minimal access to education but I went to the library. I really did "pull myself up by my bootstraps" vs. these losers who don't try to make themselves better with the vast resources we have today. They can look things up on the internet for free. They can read the news for free. They can go to the library for free. They can practice highway driving with a friend. Granted passports are expensive, but they can save up and maybe do a road trip to Canada.

They are obviously only interested in stealing, being racist and ignortant and drinking.

Oh, honey.

[Anonymous]

How does your husband deal with it all?

It sounds like you don't have to interact all that much with them, so be thankful for that, don't get sucked into their drama, and make sure your kids know how to deal.

Sometimes I bug my husband that he should reach out more to his family, or we should go visit, or what's going on with X crazy situaiton or y crazy situation. The reality is my husband deals with it his way, and it does'nt help me or him or our immediate family to borrow trouble. It's all better to just let whatever happen and deal at a distance when we have to, be pleasantly surprised when things are going well and minimize it all when the poop is hitting the fan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s a presidential system?

We found OP's inlaws!

A presidential system is what the US has, as compared to a parliamentary system like Canada has.

OP, just limit your exposure and that of your kids. Don't allow any unsupervised visits with the inlaws. I do feel badly for their ignorance, lack of education and addiction issues- but not badly enough to want to be exposed to it.

PS, leave the concern for MIL's finances to DH. It's his family and doesn't become you to fixate on that.

Now you’re just making things up. If Canada doesn’t have a president, who makes all the decisions?

Do you mean, "Who is in charge of joking about annexing the U.S.?"

[Anonymous]

Nothing like pulling up those bootstraps and throwing on your judgy pants. Hats off to you, OP!

[Anonymous]

I get it.

I have in laws who are divorced and remarried because one of them can't keep it in their pants and has children that were born during their marriage due to affairs. That person is married to their affair partner and keeps having more affairs, and both are addicts who are always on drugs or alcohol so I can't deal with them anymore.

[Anonymous]

God forbid someone doesn’t own a passport! What trash!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God forbid someone doesn’t own a passport! What trash!

It’s always the people without passports more concerned about Islamist violence in Europe than gun violence in the United States.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God forbid someone doesn’t own a passport! What trash!

It’s always the people without passports more concerned about Islamist violence in Europe than gun violence in the United States.

True. Agitating for action in Iran when we have too many guns here in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God forbid someone doesn’t own a passport! What trash!

There’s something to be said about people who never leave their town/state/country. General disinterest and insular.

[Anonymous]

The problem, OP, is that you see them as beneath you. For that reason, it's impossible to know how much of what you say is distorted by your bias against poor and uneducated people. Educated, wealthy people have all these same issues, they are just not quite as transparent. Given how hard their lives probably were compared to yours, you could try to see the good in them. I have extremely weathly, Ivy-educated in-laws and while they don't utter racist words out loud and act on the surface like good progressives, they're just as racist as most "progressives" I know. In short, get over yourself, please. You're no better than you husband's family. We're all big messes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you think less of people with minimal access to education and of people who have addiction problems. You sound like a snob.

Yes, yes I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s a presidential system?

We found OP's inlaws!

A presidential system is what the US has, as compared to a parliamentary system like Canada has.

OP, just limit your exposure and that of your kids. Don't allow any unsupervised visits with the inlaws. I do feel badly for their ignorance, lack of education and addiction issues- but not badly enough to want to be exposed to it.

PS, leave the concern for MIL's finances to DH. It's his family and doesn't become you to fixate on that.

Correction, we are now under an autocratic government.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s a presidential system?

We found OP's inlaws!

A presidential system is what the US has, as compared to a parliamentary system like Canada has.

OP, just limit your exposure and that of your kids. Don't allow any unsupervised visits with the inlaws. I do feel badly for their ignorance, lack of education and addiction issues- but not badly enough to want to be exposed to it.

PS, leave the concern for MIL's finances to DH. It's his family and doesn't become you to fixate on that.

Now you’re just making things up. If Canada doesn’t have a president, who makes all the decisions?

Just in case you are being serious, the head of Canada's government is the Prime Minister, the same way as in the UK. Neither works the way it works in the US.

[Anonymous]

If you see them briefly, twice a year, what is there to commiserate? I'm confused.