Fixation on saying they’re a good person- why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Individual therapy for DH stat.

It's called splitting---he cannot tolerate that he, like everyone else, is a mix of good traits and bad traits.

OP and I googled splitting and it's an incredibly accurate description of how my DH behaves and speaks about things, but I'm alarmed to see that it's associated with borderline personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

This is the beginning of the end of your relationship. Find a divorce lawyer and end it. You married the wrong man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the beginning of the end of your relationship. Find a divorce lawyer and end it. You married the wrong man.

+1

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your hubby has self-esteem issues.
Or he could be using this phrase as a manipulation tactic.

Or possibly both.
There is not much that you can do when he tells you this again - - I personally would just ignore it.
Do not let it make you mad even though the more you hear him say this pathetic excuse it probably does annoy you greatly…..

[Anonymous]

Agree you will just be playing into his belief that he's a good person and you are bad. Just walk away and realize he can't deal with the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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