rising senior anxiety

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:due to no fault of my child's (didnt want to date one of the guys who was pursuing her) the whole group stopped being her friends and inviting her to parties, (so much for females sticking up for each other), it was a good life lesson (choose your friends-including female wisely) , but the timing of it at the end of junior year was devastating.

I’m so sorry this happened. She’s very strong to not give in to this pressure but I know it is devastating to be dropped by her girlfriends. So so hard and now with college apps. There were good suggestions here. Be kind to yourself as you support her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe trying to take a couple things off their plate. Better to lighten the load and have success than for them to break under the heavier one.

This.

Mine was so anxious almost to the point of ulcers. Went TO. Focused on the things that could be controlled. Parents helped out too bc no one needs a breakdown.

Had amazing outcomes.

That you felt compelled to say this suggests that you may have had a hand in causing the anxiety . . . it always starts with the parents.

[Anonymous]

Take a long weekend and go to Pittsburgh. Visit Pitt (try to go for Blue snd Gold Day), go to cool museums, Phipps conservatory, etc. She can apply in Aug with whatever stage her common app essay is in, and get in early September. Should give her a big boost. And Pitt is a great school. DS didn’t want to apply anywhere else after that acceptance (he did, eventually). Then she’ll know she will go to college and leave the high school mean girls behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take a long weekend and go to Pittsburgh. Visit Pitt (try to go for Blue snd Gold Day), go to cool museums, Phipps conservatory, etc. She can apply in Aug with whatever stage her common app essay is in, and get in early September. Should give her a big boost. And Pitt is a great school. DS didn’t want to apply anywhere else after that acceptance (he did, eventually). Then she’ll know she will go to college and leave the high school mean girls behind.

Pitt is a great school and everyone on this board is constantly telling kids to apply to Pitt, but it is definitely not the only school with rolling admissions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:so anxious cant study to retake sat, do essay or common app...st8 As, highest courseload and a lot of leadership positions..what do you do? in therapy, looking for better one.
isolating at home, recently lost friends, no fault of the kids, so this makes it even more difficult

Pretty common. I dont care what anybody says here. Help your kid. Anyway you can. Very easy for some kids to just shut down during this process. It is OK to do some handholding here despite what DCummers will tell you.

I agree with this.